So I have been thinking a lot lately ( I think too much... ) When I listen to music ( i like all kinds of music... usually up tempo alternative, techno, pop, alternative rock and other mixes of things) anyways, I think of REALLY strong lusts for girls. It is my closest connection to the feeling. In terms of kinky things, male bodies on online porn turns me on. I have enjoyed some things with women involved, but it didnt "turn on" it was just enjoyable to watch. How far can lust go.? How important is sex? I feel comfortable asking here, but at the same time I view this as a - PRO come out and be gay - ... not exactly a " lets sort this out and be me" - site. that isn't meant to be pessimistic. I just don't even know me yet. grr.
Lust goes as far as it goes. I dunno. I don't really think there's a good way to explain it, since it's different for everybody. Sex is important. It's not shallow to think so. Sex is important. I cannot see myself with a girl because I'm not sexually attracted to them. Emotionally, I'm very attracted to girls. But the sex drive just isn't there. Don't try to find a label for yourself. Maybe you're gay, maybe you're bi, maybe you're straight, maybe you're any of the millions of places in between. You know what you're attracted to - see where that goes. Maybe your attractions will develop. Sorry for a fairly wishy-washy response.
For me, lust can last for a long time and it can last for a short time. But i do not believe its everlasting. Perhaps thats the naive little me :lol: As for sex, i do not believe it is important, at least not as important as other stuff like the actually relationship and how well you connect with the other person. I can see myself in a relationship without sex even though i definitely wouldnt mind it. :lol: However, i do not think its shallow to think that sex is important too. Everyone's opinions varies, so yeah.
I think sex is important- not so much sex as intimacy. Sex is a form of intimacy- quite possibly the deepest form of it. A relationship can not exist without intimacy, but it can exist without sex. What I'm saying, is if you could have an INTIMATE and non-sexual relationship with a girl it would most likely work- if you loved her. But how could you be intimate at all with someone you aren't attracted to??
