I plan to give this to my mum tonight. Dear mum, I'm not pregnant, I'm doing well at university, have a good group of friends, don't do drugs and am not in any trouble at all. I am gay though. And I have been for a long time, but it's taken a lot to come to terms with it. Nothing has changed, I'm still the same person, just now I have the chance to be happy. Please don't tell dad or anyone else yet. There is no issue or any problem, so I don't really want to have a discussion about it. If you have any questions, it's okay to ask though. Rhiannon
It's a good letter, particularly because it sets clear boundaries. I'm not sure about the opening, though -- it kinda sets being gay on a level with all those things that she would react negatively to, and it's best to encourage a good reaction even if you don't expect one. If you want to rewrite it some, you could say, "I'm writing this not because I'm in any trouble but because I want to let you know that I'm gay." If you want to keep it, that's okay too. I hope that using it tonight goes well -- good luck, and please keep us posted!
Thanks ---------- Post added 18th Sep 2013 at 01:04 PM ---------- The reason I've done that is not to put being gay on a par with all those things, but to say 'this is what I could be doing... But instead I'm gay which is nowhere near as bad as those things' xx
Good letter! I agree with fiddlededee about the opening though, it sets a bit of a negative tone at the start - I get what you're trying to do with it though. Maybe just leave off the pregnancy and drugs and keep in all the positive stuff? Good luck, hope it goes well
Is it bad that I'm sort of laughing at how you started the letter? I can imagine a woman tearing open a letter from her daughter who's in college and thinking all the while, "She better not be pregnant, she better not be pregnant..."
I kind of like the fact that in the beginning u said u r not pregnant or on drugs because when a parent reads a letter from their child that usually means something serious is going on in their lives, something that their child can't just simply say in person so I'm thinking most likely the parents r thinking that their daughter is pregnant or on drugs etc and mayb wen they read that their child is neither of those then reading that their child is gay isn't bad at all u know? It's a good letter for who's parents think being gay is an 'abomination'
Hehe, I love it! I love the opening too, I think it's perfect. "These are all the things that could be going wrong, but they're not, hurrah!" Good luck with giving it to her!
