So, my summer goal was to come out to my dad. But suddenly it was September and I still hadn't said anything. But since then, I came out to a few camp friends, and my school's GSA. Which I think is good progress, and I'd really like to start thinking about being openly gay. But before I'm get even more sidetracked, I feel like before I can do that, I need to tell my dad. He's a great guy, he's on my side, and doesn't seem to be Republican/conservative. (If he was I think I'd know.) But the idea of it still scares me. I for real, was going to say something last week, but it turned out to be a really stressful week for all of us. (I got a surprise MRI.) So I figured that I shouldn't heap anything else onto that. I've felt 'ready' a few other times, but I've never gone through with it. And not to answer my own question but, I think I could tell him if I had one hell of a pep-talk. But at the same time, I wonder if I have the wrong motives for being out to everyone. I feel like it's 50-75% of me wanting to be honest about myself, and 25-50% me really wanting a girlfriend. :icon_redf I've always been pretty lonely, and I feel like that might help. And it would diminish the crushes on my straight friends, that only end with me getting hurt. I feel really selfish saying that. So what do I do next? Should I wait until my motives are a little clearer?
I'm in no position to b givin anyone advice because i cant even tell one of my parents you've already told but I was in a simular situation as you i decided not to tell my parents until I feel and know the time is right for them to know the truth.
I hear ya sister! Coming out to your parents is a hard job. It took me nearly a year after coming out to my first person for me to actually tell me parents. The thing is though, depending on your parents, really no time is a good time to come out...at least that was my case. It just so happened that one day I was really being bothered by what people were saying at work, so I just straight up called my Mom and told her...just like that xD My Dad, on the other hand, found out by a text I sent, because he is one of those bible -humping conservatives haha. Yeah, it took him forever to accept it and didn't talk to me for a while, but it all rolled over eventually and now things don't seem any different than they were before. Your dad sounds like a great person to come out to! You guys already have a great connection, and who knows, telling him you're gay may even bring you guys close. One thing I know from experience, is that your father wants to be there for you no matter what, after I came out to my mom first, my dad was a bit upset that I never came to him to talk about things...merely because he made me uncomfortable about it. So yeah, I think you're in a great position to come out in all honesty! Sorry if this was a bit long haha, but good luck with your endeavors and let me know how it goes! *hugs*
