Why most people come out fist as bisexual even through they are gay?

1) Because saying bi doesn't sound as bad as gay. It's like they are saying "I'm gat but it's okay because I still like girls".
2) They are beginning to understand that thet arent 'straight' but haven't admitted to themselves that they are gay yet

Well I took my two best guesses

 

I agree with this ^ but also adding on, people may still be unsure of their sexuality and so they just say "Oh I am bisexual". This happens a lot and people may only realise a couple of years down the line that they are actually gay or straight . However in most cases they realise they're actually gay.

 

They probably figure heteros can relate on some level, that they too had one or two "crushes" on the same sex at some point, which might be true for all i know. I think it can be genuinely confusing though, not necessarily just a lie for some acceptance. For example, some i know settle on "biromantic homosexual" so at first they think they are really bisexual.

 

It appears that being bisexual is slightly more socially acceptable :/

 

I don't know why anyone comes out as bi first and then gay later...to me it makes the fact that a person who is actually 100% gay less believable possibly causing people to think it was all just a phase...hope that made sense?

 

Exactly it I came out as BI to my brother and his girlfriend but I'm gay.

 

People that come out like that are probably thinking by telling people they are bi not gay they will think its easier cause they will say they like the opposite sex and not the same sex

 

So says the statistics: Hetro: 50%; Bi: 40%; Homo: 10% (okay so says what was written on my Health Education textbook)

Seemingly, being compared to being bi, being gay is a minority. And perhaps saying that you're bi isn't really lying....

Not that I could make any comments over because although I have assumed that maybe I'm bi a few years ago but when I am ready to come out, I am more than sure that I like boys as sexual appeal and girls as a enjoyable landscape (sorry girls....)

 

Statistically, it's about ~90% heterosexual, ~10% other. It largely depends on how they classify "bisexual", but those numbers from your textbooks are pretty far off.

 

I agree with the above statements. I honestly came out a Bisexual first, even after I was 100% sure I was full Homo haha. It just seemed like it would be easier and slightly more acceptable at the time, but in all reality...if you like guys, you like guys haha xD

 

USA Bisexual Invisibility Report (2011) - http://www.sf-hrc.org/modules/showdocument.aspx?documentid=989

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According to several studies, self-identified bisexuals make up the largest single population within
the LGBT community in the United States. In each study, more women identified as bisexual than
lesbian, and fewer men identified as bisexual than gay.

In 2010, a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, based on a nationally representative
probability sample of women and men in the U.S., found that among adults (5,042 respondents),3.1% self-identified as
bisexual, compared to 2.5% as gay/lesbian

Sexual orientation in adolescents (Herbenick et al., 2010), While the sample size was smaller for adolescents
(818 respondents), the split was even more striking: 4.9% self-identified as bisexual compared to just 1.0% gay/lesbian

Data from the 2002 National Survey of Family Growth based on in-person interviews with 7,643
women and 4,928 men found that 2.8% of women and 1.8% of men identify as bisexual. By
comparison, 1.3% of women describe themselves as lesbian and 2.3% of men as gay. It is also
interesting to note that while behavior is distinct from identity not everyone who is attracted to
more than one gender identifies as bisexual the study also found that about 13% of women and
6% of men reported attractions to both women and men.

 

This kind of thing really upsets me. When people who come out as bisexual as a way to "soften the blow" it just fuels a lot of the biphobia out there. Such as when Dan Savage has said in interviews, "if a man comes to me and says he's bi, I reply 'That's nice, talk to me in 5 years when you're actually ready to come out'".

 

I didn't realise I was gay until this year. For the past 2-3 years I though "oh I'm bi." Discovering your sexuality takes time.

 

It's just easier for people who are close to you and already have opinions of you to understand. Coming out as bisexual plants that seed and weans others into thinking of you with a member of the same sex without totally braking their set opinion of you with a member the opposite sex. A lot of people also use the bisexual card when coming out if they're uncertain about their sexuality themselves, so then if they get together with a member of either sex, it's not going to create as many waves as coming out being on polar ends of the orientation spectrum.

 

To be really honest, I think there's some holdover from a previous generation. I think we'll see more and more people who are completely gay just come out and say they're gay. There's less and less stigma. OTHO, I hope that means that those who are actually bi and say they are bi will get more respect.

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Also, I find it very insulting when people in the LGBT community say stuff like "We believe bi's exist, but the number of real bi's is really, really small, and if you say you're bi, you're probably lying or just in denial."

So much for empathy and solidarity.