How do you date the same sex when you don't have a label?

You don't need labels to be with someone you care about. If you like them and they like you that's what really matters. Of course, keeping thins secret might not work for the other person, but if the only thing stopping you is the lack of a label then just tell them [if they ask] that you're still searching for a label you like.

Best of luck!

 

Sorry not to be able to make a supportive comment but I'm still stuck on how you date the same sex fullstop when the ratio of straight-gay people is so uneven. I only know about seven lesbians that I know of, six of them are in couples with each other and I don't fancy them anyway and the seventh I do fancy but she is taken. How people ever meet people of the same sex and build successful relationships with them is totally beyond my ken!

 

You just do. Love is love!

 

Look up Bria and chrissy on youtube. When they got together, Bria was sure of her sexuality and chrissy had just started thinking about possibly dating girls so she went to a gay bar.... And there they met. For a LONG time (over a year), chrissy was unlabeled (recently she came out as a lesbian). You don't need a label as long as you love the person you're with!

 

I didn't like the label 'bisexual' either as it's got a lot of negative connotations in our society. However, I eventually realised that just because I didn't like the meanings society had put onto the word 'bisexual' that it didn't mean the true meaning, someone who is attracted to men and women, wasn't me - I'm attracted to men and women, therefore I am bisexual. I prefer 'bi' though - I don't like announcing anything 'sexual' about myself! This may not be you, but just thought I'd share in case it was.

Have you heard of pansexual? If not, maybe look that up, it's slightly different to bi - the downside is most people haven't heard of it so you might have to explain what it means if you decide that is you.

Another possibility is bringing up into conversation that you don't like to label your sexuality - that would put across that you are open to same sex relationships. But it might be too subtle for some people.