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subtle gay cover photo?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by silk, Sep 26, 2013.

  1. silk

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    just searching for a kinda "subtle" facebook cover photo.
    I mean: some are a big SHINY rainbow flag with some big text, some even say "I am gay" or something.
    I'm searching for something that isn't like super flashy and shiny, and doesn't really say it literally, but it's still obvious.
     
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    Take a picture of yourself with a rainbow flag behind you or in your hands; or just put the equality icon somewhere in the picture. The message will come through to those who know what it means. Pictures of dogs, cars, babies or other non-face stuff don't really tell people who they are talking to, which is usually what they want to know right away.
     
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    Equality Icon might not get the message across, millions of people used that in their facebook picture/cover photo over the summer, so people might not pick up on the message you're trying to send.
     
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    He can always bury the information a little deeper if anyone wants to search further than the front page by saying "Interested in Men" on the About page. I assume that if he wants people to know, however subtly, when they look at the front page, that he is already "out"; he just doesn't want to rub the casual passerby's nose in the fact flamboyantly, because he is a normal person who happens to be gay, not a GAY! person who happens to be normal. :icon_wink
     
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    well, my facebook is already set to "men"
    I am wearing a rainbow wristband with "pride" imprinted on it. People are probably maybe thinking it, but not asking me.
    So I need something subtle to just get them over that line, that yes, I am gay.

    But I'm probably just going for something like these: Gay Pride Facebook Cover - Cover #1669350
    Gay pride! Facebook Cover - Cover #1658066
    or maybe even: GAY PRIDE Facebook Cover - Cover #929157
    but without the second and third sentence, I'm not a person that swears, I'm really calm friendly and always want to help out, so it wouldn't fit me.

    Just not going to use these for this week, but on like monday, because there is a wedding this saturday, so all my fzamily is coming, and they don't really know, so by posting this, I may be like a subject there, and I already dislike talking to family, so yeah.

    but these covers above, are so FLASHY, the first on e is kinda okay, not that flashy, but yeah, I mean something like these, but subtle that will tell people, or atleast let them comment like: "wait does this mean your gay?"
    than it's easy for me to say: yes
    I dislike telling people "I am gay, when you're not, you don't go telling people that, do oyu? so I xfind it weird if I do it, s I'm trying to make people ask me
     
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    The third one is hilarious but go for the 2nd one its quite nice :3 come out come out wherever you are like hide and seek :3
     
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    I am laughing at the difference between your definition of "subtle" and my own. Probably a generational difference. LOL
     
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    yeah, and it's kinda subtle: not just "I'm gay"
    I'll probably take that one, put it as a cover photo on monday or something.
    I have physical education on Friday, so want it to be as early as possible, because I'm afraid people will do "annoying" when changing if I post it on like thursday or something. They won't have the time to get "used" to it.
    but yeah, that one is probably the best

    ---------- Post added 26th Sep 2013 at 07:20 PM ----------

    well, I just didn't really know how to explain it, so just called it "subtle" :slight_smile:
     
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    Yeah, that wasn't what I was imagining by 'subtle' either, lol. I was thinking portrait photo wearing a rainbow wrist-band. The second and third links were hilarious though, go for it silk :slight_smile:
     
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    Agree..not subtle at all :lol: but i loved the 2nd one!! :thumbsup:
     
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    If everyone who watches your FB knows, why bother with subtlety? :slight_smile:

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    well, don't want to push it in, want to keep it on a more subtle note.
    I don't find it special, it's just who I am. If you like cats, you put a cover photo of cats. I liker guys and I'm gay, so want something to do with that, but I just don't like the BIG RAINBOW flag stuff.
     
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    No, it's not just you. I see no subtlety either. xD

    But hey, who needs subtlety. FLAUNT IT! :grin:
     
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    LOL, I was thinking the same thing!
     
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    LET'S SEE WHAT THE REACTION WILL BE, putting it as a cover photo today, let's see how many people will ask me about it, it's half past eight now, so some should still see it on facebook
     
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    Good luck dude! Tell us how it goes! :grin:
     
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    Yeah!! we want to know!! :thumbsup:
     
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    LOL, It's like everyone just knows, no reaction at all.
    Maybe everyone just knows for sure now, also because of my wristband, but just don't say anything about it, I wonder, maybe if I still don't get nay reaction after like 2 weeks, I'll kinda ask around subtle if they know.
     
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    I'm going to lump this under the category of no news is good news. :grin:
     
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    skittles or M&M's? it's rainbow