Should you come out if you are bisexual?

I'm that same way. My mom is a devout Catholic and I shudder to think what she will do/say when she finds out. I haven't had a relationship with another guy (yet) so I've only told a handful of people. I figure that when the time comes, I'll know it and I'll tell her, but on the other hand, I'd rather tell her and get it over with.

 

You are bi. Its a part of you. If the next boy you fall in love with can't handle that, then find a better one. You shouldn't be expected to hide who you are.

 

You should do what makes you feel good about yourself.

 

I'll definitely keep you guys updated

It's only a matter of time before I tell more people. I've told my siblings and my closest friends and they're all extremely supportive. My siblings however, share my trepidation and think that I should wait in telling my mom. I want to tell her just to get it out of the way, but as I mentioned, I'm scared to, and I keep moving to the worst possible outcome of telling her...

 

I think you should come out. It's not fair to you to hide a part of yourself because of other peoples' ignorance. If they don't accept you then that's their loss. I'm sure you're a wonderful girl and being bisexual doesn't change that. Not only that, anyone you choose to date deserves to know. I mean, some people do not want to date someone who is not heterosexual. It's nothing personal, but people have the right to choose who they want to date or not as well. I wish you the best of luck and come out only when you're ready c:

 

Pretty much same boat here.

I just don't feel like I need to tell everyone honestly, I feel like people will think I'm just being an attention getter, which I don't care if they think that but I just don't see the *need* to tell everyone at this moment. At the same time I do feel like I need some people to know, just so it's out there.

I'm just going to play it day by day I think, and if it feels right, do it. You know?

 

I might not be the best person to give advice on this, but I think telling people to the point where you no longer feel closeted is pretty important.
Every single person on this planet doesn't need to know, but you shouldn't have to feel like you're hiding an essential part of yourself just to keep your parents from being upset.
And if the person you fall for next happenes to be a guy, wouldn't you want to know that he likes you for all that is you?

 

As being Bi, part of me wants to come out, but the other part wants to keep that aspect of myself hidden.

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Do what ever your heart tells you

 

Congrats on the decision Chloe! Keep us updated!

 

It's really something you should decide for yourself. Do you feel guilt about them not knowing or does it not really bother you that they're unaware of this? There are repercussions of coming out, both good and bad. And it's different being bisexual because there is technically that option to hide it and if you don't currently have any interest in a particular person of the same sex then it may be easier to hide it. However, it does limit your freedom to express yourself in ways which you may or may not want.

It all comes down to how restricted you feel at the moment. If you're fine with others not knowing, don't force yourself to come out. A person's sexuality is always their business and just because someone isn't straight doesn't mean they absolutely have to announce it to the world. Lots of people do because the general assumption (unless you display certain stereotypical characteristics) is that one is heterosexual, but if it's not something you want to do, never feel pressured into doing it.

Just think about how you feel and weigh up the advantages and disadvantages. You'll come to the right decision for you I'm sure

 

I pretty much posted the same thing when I first joined and soon after came to the conclusion that I should still come out, because if I do want to go out with a girl I don't want it to be a big shock to everyone, and if I do end up with a guy then I want him to know I'm bi rather than me hiding it. Still in the coming out process though and not looking forward to telling the parents.

 

I came out as bi about 6 months ago to close family and most my friends. I'm yet to meet any girl i've had a connection with so at times I do wonder if i've jumped the gun by telling everyone i'm bi before actually meeting anyone to base my suspicions on. However - telling my friends something so important to me has made our friendships so much closer and meaningful. I've been friends with one of my friends for 20 years and she recently told me she always felt there was a small distance between us but she couldnt put her finger on what it was. Now i've trusted her with something that has upset me for so long she feels honoured I trusted her, proud to be the person I told and now we can chat about what is really on my mind. So I guess what i'm trying to say is, dont underestimate how much your friends love you and how pleased they will be to be able to share this with you. Also, with every person I told it a) got easier but b) helped me to accept it myself. Thats my biggest struggle really, coming to terms with it myself and now I have a little fan club in my closest friends they are pushing me towards a life I always suspected I wanted but never had the guts to go for.

 

Personally I think it would suck if you got a girlfriend but still hadn't told your parents. Because it's enough to tell parents about a significant other- let alone tell them that the person is a member of the same sex. If you tell them sooner rather than later, they have time to adjust before they have to meet someone.

 

Really comes down to your personal situation. My opinion is that you probably should come out at least to your close friends and immediate family, but there is nothing saying that you absolutely have to.

 

I heard it said that dying alone was not such a good thing, but far worse...was living alone. I am not ready to die, but I am tired of living a lie...alone etc.
I am as gay as anyone & straight as anyone... I love my times with women & men... no real preference. haven't had a man in my bed for a long time.... 1982 to be exact. Too many worries about a.i.d.s et.al.
guess this is my big coming out day.... in this forum. hey, I'm bi...love it. Love being a bitch, as well as a guy. So sad, all this time has passed and nothing was ever accomplished to ease my way into an open lifestyle. Every time I get near wagging my ass down the aisle of the public shopping whatever, I get afraid..fear wins out. I guess at my age, doesn't make much difference... yet i am still alive...I still feel... still feel imprisoned in silence....loneliness. My dear sister, Charles, died in the early 90's of A.I.D.S... he knew my secrets...we were sisters. Loved to get in drag & get dinged...yow.
But then he died, the sun came out....the fog left & cold reality set in. Now it is just live in silence, no one knowing nothing......wow

 

I'd at least come out to a couple people. I'm out to my parents as bi, and they accept me, and if friends come and go because of my orientation then I'll still have them.