So I am planning on going back home Friday for the weekend to visit my family. I have been really wanting to come out to my parents and then I heard Friday was national coming out day so I took that as a sign and I'm going to do it! My parents are both very conservative, Christian and anti-gay. I've tried to come out before but couldn't find the words. So I have prepared a letter that I am going to give them. I was wondering if once I give it to them if I should leave the house for a while and give them space? Or sit with them while they read it? I'm really not sure what to do. Any advice about that or just advice about coming out in general would be great!
I guess that really is dependent on a lot of things. First, your comfort level and how you think you will take their reaction. Second, their reaction in the first place. If things get heated and people start yelling and blaming, then yes, I think it would be appropriate to leave, if however they want to have a legitimate conversation (which might have some grumbling and ignorant things said as well) than I think it would be sensible to stay. What do you think?
I feel like they will be disappointed, maybe even devastated. They are really disgusted by gay people but I'm hoping they won't overreact too much. Yikes I am getting nervous!
I would leave the house to give them space, no wait, that's not the reason, I would leave the house out of fear. Wow, that sounds terrible. I don't know what you should do but I want to wish you the best of luck! Hopefully they'll take it better than you think.
Thanks! I'm got to come home a day early so I'm already home and so nervous. I think my parents know something is up! I how I don't back out before tomorrow!
You're not the only one! I'm thinking of coming out as bi - actually saying it to their faces because they think I'm just joking around when I say girls are cute. Good luck x
It may be the case that they are really disgusted by the distorted imaginary non-reality about gay people which they have created in their mind, instead of the the real non-imaginary gay person they created in their bedroom. When they see your face as the face of "gay" instead of the sordid copulatory porn stars they have imagined into existence to represent "gay", they will have to rethink what they have been imagining and saying. They may be initially disappointed, but they will have to accept you for THEIR reality, once the mourning about the fantasy is over. If they really love you, they should eventually come around, but you may have an "interesting" day tomorrow. Hugs, and best wishes for a quick resolution of your concerns.
