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coming out!?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by smalltowngirl, Oct 16, 2013.

  1. smalltowngirl

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    So I think I have finally decided to come out to my best friend, who is against being gay, this weekend when I go back home. I might do it over text or phone call because it may be easier. This is a big move for me and I am really nervous. Anybody have any suggestions to help with this.
     
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    Good luck but do I read right she is Against being gay?
     
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    yes she is....she is actually grossed out by it..
     
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    Do you think you should come out to her if that's how she feels? X
     
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    Since you are not out at all, I think you should come out to someone who is supportive of gay rights before you come out to your friend.
     
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    It's probably best to have a support group of some family/friends before you come out to a person who you know won't accept you completely.
     
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    I agree with all the previous replies...don't come out to her first! There is no point and most likely it won't make u feel good after coming out to her...one of my friends who I am quite close to is discusted by gay people and so that is why I haven't told her because I don't want to lose her as a friend.
     
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    Yeah, I agree with everyone else. The first person you come out to should probably be someone you know will be supportive. It really is important to get a support system.
     
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    I will make it unanimous, come out to someone who will be your ally, not someone who may freak, turn on you, and out you in a manner you can't manage. She may alter her own opinions later when she realizes that someone she likes is gay, as you spread the word around at your own pace.
     
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    I agree, come out to someone who will be on your side, it'll make the whole process a lot easier and then you'll have someone to support you along the way. X
     
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    thanks for all the great advice, it has really helped!! I have decided to hold off on coming out to her. I still feel like i need to come out to someone so I decided to come out to my family..fingers crossed it will go well