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Again a crush thread...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Justtobehere12, Jun 5, 2008.

  1. Justtobehere12

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    I have a big problem!

    There is a friend of mine (aka my crush), he is very cute.
    He looks gay (speaks with little femine voice,he is always in great clothes,he moves his a*s while he walks etc. ), and when he notices that i look at him he just smiles back.So i wana find out if hes gay or not but I don't have the guts to ask him if hes gay cuz u don't want to risk our friendship.

    So is there any other way i choud find out if hes gay except of asking him???

    :help::help::help::help::help:
     
  2. Trumpetplyer23

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    Does he know you're gay? If not, then tell him and he might come out to you, you'll never know until you try. I don't think you should be like "Dude, are you gay?" because people rarely say "Yeah, I'm gay" if they're hiding it and not out to everyone.

    So I suggest just talking to him, gaining his trust, coming out to him, and see what happens from them.

    Oh and, WELCOME TO EC!!!
     
  3. Justtobehere12

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    Thanks for the advice :slight_smile:
     
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    Hate to be a downer but...

    There's this kid at my school with bleach-blonde hair, he does the wrist-hang ALL the time, he has a girly walk and a lisp.

    He's pretty much every gay-stereotype under the SUN.

    And he's been dating a girl for a solid year or two, I've heard.

    >_<

    It's sad.

    Try not to get too hooked on the kid, but I'm sure a friendship wouldn't hurt. If you start with friendship, you can either find out if he is gay, and/or it may just bloom into romance.

    But try not to fall too hard if it doesn't work out.

    I believe in yoooou!
     
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    Couldnt of said it any better than you :slight_smile:

    Also welcome to EC. (&&&)
     
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    Hi! Welcome to EC! :slight_smile:

    I agree with Trumpetplyer23. Talk to him. If you haven't come out to him yet, you might want to come out to him first (only if you feel comfortable though) and hear what he has to say. If he is gay, he might also come out to you then. Good Luck!
     
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    >>>So is there any other way i choud find out if hes gay except of asking him?

    Short answer - no.

    I've campaigned for there to be added to our world a sentence. Something along the lines of "I find you attractive on several levels, and am interested in developing a relationship with you. However, if you are not gay, or are not interested in a relationship with me, that's fine - we'll just go on being friends as if I never said this."

    ...haven't been able to get the world on board with it yet, though.

    But the above advice is very sound. Make him a friend first. If he ends up being straight or not interested in a relationship with you, hey, you still got a friend.

    Lex