It's like i'm all alone!

I get times like that but what get me up is choc or sleeping and talking to friends but i woundn't know what to do if you where 100KM away from ur mates..

i woish i could help sorry dude i hope you get some excitment because im reather down latly because off school trying to hide my gayness from people who hate me and running away from the slut who scars me..

i wish i could help but it looks like we both need advice..

 

This sucks. Try and be comforted by the idea that there is someone all the way across the world that feels the same way. You're alone, but you're not. Loneliness is a shitty thing to endure, but make an effort to keep your head up - try and keep your mind occupied with things that normally keep your interest. It might seem like everything you'll try just gets glazed over with those bad feelings, but keep trying, and take note that you are trying.

Believe that you will be happy again.

=)

 

Alex... You got on my case before when I suggested that you were bored. You snippy little fellow! Listen, your telling the world that you are bored, lonely and unloved might relieve some of your pain, and that's good, but if you can't get rid of these feelings you can get some help from the family doctor, who can prescribe some mild medication. This is probably not an easy thing to do under your circumstances. IF I were your fathet, I'd send you off to a canoe camp in Canada for a month or so. You would get used to the paddling. You'd bitch a bit, but you could make friends that woud be your buddies. You would learn how to catch lake trouts and salmon. You would love it. When I was akid in college I was the medic on these trips. It hurt like hell to paddle a canoe over lakes that were miles long, and doing portage over dams to get to the other side; but I'll never forget those trips and the guys I made fdriends with. I was a pre-med student at that time, (biology/pre-med student), and the forests, the animals (moose, black beasr, grizzlies, etc.), sleeping in the beautiful nights under stars with no other people from cities about. It was magnificent. 21 at the time. Now, you may not be able to do this Alex, and your summer may just roll around without much to do, but all we can do for you is to make suggestions, and to let you know that some of us care. And, lastly, if some of us here could be around you, I'm sure we would find some reason to like you, even become friends. Crying is not a bad thing. Turn it on for a while and feel for other guys like yourself who are lonely too and know that yoy are not alone. From a grouchy guy to another, Paladin

 

i know how you feel alex, the thing is i actually do have friends, just alot of the time it feels like they're 100 km away. My parents never pay too much attention to me, so half of the time im home alone feeling completely invisible. And due to recent events in my life, things aren't too cheery where im standing. But its life man, you just gotta keep living on, hoping for the future. I'll find that one someday, and so will you. Just take what you got and try to make the best of it :] I should probably be following my own advice about now

 

Alex, why don't you try some volunteer work somewhere? Maybe at the pool? This would get you out of the house, you might make some new friends, and you would be spending time doing something you like! Being in the water!

 

Hi Alex. I can understand you feeling lonely. You've just moved and you're alone all day while your parents are at work. Does'nt sound like much fun.

Set some goals for yourself though. Pick up that book you're supposed to read, and read just the first chapter. It sounds like you wanted to do this course, so stick with it and get it done.

Getting outside to do some kind of physical activity would be good too. Cycling or swimming or just going for a walk would do you good, even if you do those things by yourself. (Having just typed that, don't go swimming alone - you should always go with someone!) And you might actually meet someone when you're out from your new neighbourhood.

Here's a really corny suggestion... Maybe there's an elderly neighbour that could use some help with their yard or their garden. You'd be a hero to them if you were to help them out some time, and they'd be like a surrogate grandparent for you. (I could write screen plays for Disney I'm sure.) They might even have a really cute, gay, grandson that they could introduce you to! (Ok - that might be asking a little much...)

 

^ OK... I recognize that kind of thinking. You sound 'depressed' to me. Depression sends you off on trains of thought that are negative and usually not true. Ah! Just noticing that you have even chosen that for your 'mood'.

In a way, that's good! You're recognizing that you're depressed. Depression is something that doesn't last forever (at least it doesn't have to) and you can do something about it. Exercise - even if you really don't feel like doing it - would be good for you. Reading that bood - even if you really don't feel like doing it - would be good for you.

It's totally understandable that you ARE depressed. You've moved. You are missing your friends. You're likely a little nervous about making new ones. You're worried about your aunt, who is obviously having problems of her own. And because of that, you probably don't want to burden your parents either.

But your parents would want to know that you're unhappy. That you're feelling lonely. That you're having trouble motivating yourself. That you're feeling depressed. They love you and would want to help you in any way they could. I know not all parents are like that, but I believe most are. So it's ok to share some of this with them.

And just like the good times never last forever, nor do the bad times. Keep going. We're all rooting for you!

 

Do you know how upset they'd be if they could read this? Alex, They would want to help you? Wouldn't you want to help them if they had a problem? I'm sure you would!

They would too. They'd WANT to help. I hope you reconsider talking to them.

 

You should talk to your doctor if you want to do that.

I think you just feel couped in inside the house. I'd take Jim's advise and go outside and run or swim. I always feel much better if I'm depressed after I exercise. It just releases a lot of stress for me and makes me feel good about myself because I did something productive.

Maybe you should try limiting your computer time, too. Sometimes I make a list of things to do and I don't let myself touch the computer until I do everything on the list.

 

dude, i don't know you or anything but at least your first post sounds alot like what i go through sometimes. i have spent like a month in my room never leaving it and sometimes it's like i don't have the energy to get out of bed. and then there are other days when i'm great. hyper and on this amazing high. if you are like me then you need to see a doctor. i'm bipolar and i have to take meds and stuff but i don't have this really bad lows/ or at least not as bad as i used to. idk, i don't have a psych. degree but it might help to talk to somebody.