The guy that I thought somehow had outed me at work asked me to be the best man in his wedding. I accepted initially, but told him we have to talk about something. I sat him down and asked him why he thought I was gay. He looked at me like how a dog turns their head when you make a funny noise. There was a person at work that said he had told people that I was gay and I mentioned that to him. He said he never said it. Jokes have been made about it since then by his family. I was sure they knew. Apparently he never said it and on the few occasions that his family had made jokes were all pure coincidence. So here I was ready for him to tell me how he knew or who had told him and he had no idea. So I feel like I just told somebody who didn't need to know. I feel like I just handed over a really sensitive bomb. He said he's fine and he doesn't care, but I just don't feel great about telling him.
Something like that happened to me. I'm only out to a few people at the nursing home where I live. One evening the nurse noticed I was on the computer all the time. She said "we'll have to get you a girlfriend." Without thinking I said "I'm actually looking for a boyfriend." This nurse does gossip about people so most of the staff probably know by now.
