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How do I tell them?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by lostboy429, Oct 29, 2013.

  1. lostboy429

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    I recently came to terms that i am gender-fluid. I want to tell my family and friends, but i don't know how i should tell them or if i should tell them at all. I want them to know, but i don't want to risk losing them or risk my school finding out. What should I do?
     
  2. BookDragon

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    Would it be a problem if the school knew?

    If the risk is too great, then consider if they need to know. Is anything going to change when you tell them, use of pronouns, name, way you act/dress etc?

    I'm not saying you shouldn't tell them it's just worth considering
     
  3. lostboy429

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    I live in a very religious area, and while there are some accepting people, they are few and far between. I already get criticized for being gay, I don't want to be criticized even more for being true to myself. But I feel as if my friends should know
     
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    It's never easy, people will misunderstand that coming out isn't a bad thing, but it will take years before the majority of americans accept this.

    -gshemesh