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I came out to this Transgender

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Ashanti, Oct 30, 2013.

  1. Ashanti

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    Hi,
    I came out to this transgender M to F.....
    My EX Girlfriend called me up to go clubbing for a catch up....
    She bought her friends with her and one was a transgender....
    We dropped my ex off to hotel and i went clubs with her friends..
    I then hit on her (transgender) kissed her and she also took my kiss....

    Anyway 2 weeks later she invited me to the house where she was house sitting to stay the night...
    So i did stay and we kissed cuddled touched grinded all night lol.....
    She (Transgender) has told her family about (US) as she pronounced it but is keeping it secret to her best friend my EX
    We never even dated but she is still wanting to keep this going.....
    Should i still go with it or break it off?
     
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    Do you WANT to keep it going or not? There's nothing wrong with it particularly...
     
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    Well Not really as its awkward but i have a HUGE Crush on her and have that tight stomach feeling and want it to go away...
    She is also a Bi Transgender.... hard to tell if her and my ex are "seeing eachother"
     
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    Transgender is an adjective. Calling someone " a transgender" is like calling me "a slow".
    Grammar wank over.
    To answer your question: Since transwomen are women, that helps confirm you as straight. If you were attracted to a transman, who are, well, men, then you might want to think about your orientation.
    Why is it awkward though?
     
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    Hi,

    Sorry I was just trying to explain who I have a huge crush on....

    Its awkward because my Ex girlfriend is her (trans woman / My crushes) best friend...
    And when i was at my crushes house she said "My ex is her best friend" and does not want to lose her if she found out we having a fling....

    But its strange because my crush is Bi sexual and i think maybe she is attracted to my Ex secretly... I asked my crush her sexual orientation and she said Bi.
    My Ex lives with her boyfriend but my crush is over at my ex's every day from 9 -midnight then goes home...
    Is this normal?
     
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    Am I the only reader whose head is spinning trying to figure out who is what and when and where in this description? :confused: :lol:

    My only advice would be to bow out gracefully and find a simpler dating situation, without so many entangling cross-relationships involved; crushes have a way of dissipating quickly when a new person draws your attention.
     
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    Hi What i am saying is this...
    My crush is my ex's best friend and my crush is at my ex's house nearly everyday visiting and socializing....but to me that seems a but overboard going everyday to your best friends house..... she also is bisexual...so my crush likes both men and woman....

    My ex has her boyfriend living in with her at home...and my crush is there almost everyday.
    so is this normal or is there more than meets the eye?
     
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    Okay. Everything makes sense now.
    As for the best friends thing, everyone is different. Some friends are nigh inseparable and others only hang out together when the other happens to be around. I think your crush likes you and doesn't want to hurt her best friend's feelings. For example, I have a few bisexual female friends, and one of them started dating the other one's ex, and then things sort of spiraled out of control. ...I think. These situations apparently get quite confusing.
    If you can keep track of things, you might want to go for it. It's risky, though, and things could "go to shit", as the internets puts it.