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Might have just accidently outed myself

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by JamesDE, Nov 14, 2013.

  1. JamesDE

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    My mum is trying to get me to buy a coat and I wouldn't tell them how much the one the one that I like costs(it's very expensive). So my sister ran upstairs to look at my computer, I chased her like a mad man as I'd been looking up a lot of gay related stuff. I don't think one of those tabs were up at the time but she was looking for the tab and saw the one that said "Tumblr | Twink" (don't even ask). She asked me why I had twink on my tumblr and I just said quickly said "oh it's just a justin bieber post" as that was the first thing that came to mind. It wouldn't be very believable if she managed to look at the tab though as it was a bunch of gay porn :S :S :S

    Shit shit shit I'm panicking so much what if she knows, I'm so fucking stupid, why didnt I lock my computer.
     
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    Well she either doesn't know or doesn't care by the sounds of things, I'm thinking if she it was that bad you'd be on here saying "MY SISTER JUST OUTED ME!"

    See how it goes, if she asks, maybe just tell her...I mean you don't want her thinking you were looking up the Biebs, now do you!
     
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    Hey, you'll be fine. I'll bet she didn't think anything of it. You're probably just on edge, because you're afraid of being outed. Even if it did make her suspect something, it's probably a much bigger deal to you than to her. Just breathe. :slight_smile:
     
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    Heya,

    I think you’re fine. You’re stressing out because you know what that tab actually was - a plethora of man on man films. You know how scandalous that would’ve been. However, your sister, completely oblivious to what it actually had, could only go on what you told her. Since she didn’t check, all she knows is what you told her. Ergo, the fact that you said “Justin Bieber” to her, means that’s all she can assume. Even though she might have some kind of doubt, because most people call JB a lesbian and not a twink, I think you’ve scared yourself into thinking she knows.
    At the same time, Freud would have a field day, conjecturing that you unconsciously didn’t lock your computer, because a part of you wants them to find out. I could go deeper into that, but I won’t. Not everyone is a fan of Freud.
    Reassure yourself that, as Ellia said, had she suspected anything, she would’ve already told your parents. Sisters are vindictive creatures and use any information as soon as possible ( at that age, in any case ). Just be more careful in future.
     
  5. JamesDE

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    As far as I know my family is cool with LGBT people so its not like if they did find out they would run into my room with holy water. I don't think if my sister did suspect it she wouldn't just outright go and tell my parents. She'd probably bring it up and say something like "hey do you think James is gay i saw... bla bla"

    OH GOD I'M NOT READY *crawls under bed in blanket*
     
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    I think you should try to sit down and talk to your sister.