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Did I just out myself?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by someone3, Nov 29, 2013.

  1. someone3

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    I'm a 20-something lesbian with a huge crush on a woman 20+ years older than me (straight, married). We text frequently about everyday stuff. Today I told her I was thankful to know her and she responded saying something similar, and then told me that I was adorable. I'm guessing she meant that in a think-of-you-as-a-daughter type way. However, I texted her back that she was adorable too (which she totally is).

    Do you think she might have an inkling I have a crush on her after that text?
     
  2. Starry Eyes

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    There is no way to know based on just that. So I would not worry that you outed yourself.
     
  3. MrAllMonday

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    Girls are like that.

    GIRL A:

    OOOOOOOOOOOOOOH LIKE OH MA LANTA YOU ARE LIKE SO FRICKIN CUTE

    GIRL B:

    AWWWWWWWWWWW YOU ARE SO FREAKY LIKE LIKE LIKE CUUTE TOOOOO

    So I doubt she thinks you like her in that way.
     
  4. someone3

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    Haha that made me smile. But that's more like...teenagers. I'm pushing 30 and she's in her early 50s, that's why I was wondering
     
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    ^ I really don't think she suspects that you have a crush on her. Even grown women compliment each other in that manner I think.

    I'm not good with this relationship stuff. I hope all goes well for you.
     
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    If she knows you're a lesbian then she might have an inkling, but if not then I doubt she thought anything of it.
     
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    She does. That's why I think she might have an inkling. Please I do give her compliments but they are not random, they fit the conversation. IDK. SHe prob doesn't care though!!!
     
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    I'm guessing she is in to you. She's flirting, seeing where it will go. If she wasn't married I say have fun, she's probably curious, but you are treading on breaking up a marriage if this continues. If you fall in love.....you could get hurt really bad.