I'm so sad and I can't stop crying. :icon_sad: I don't know what to do. I want a girlfriend, but I'm way too shy. And my parents would hate it... :tears: And I don't know what people would say if they saw me with another girl like that.:help:
Please don't cry. *HUGS* You will find a girlfriend soon. I don't know what your parents would say but you have to be happy.
Don't cry I'm sure you will find someone and I agree I don't know what your parents would say but you have to be happy for you not for your parents xx
I wonder how your parents would feel if they knew you were in such agony about your feelings? It is never good to be so upset. Your someone will come along before you know it.
Hej Icekitten and welcome to EC! I'm from Sweden, too :smilewave. You know, I think that I have been where you are now. I realized aged sixteen that all those feelings I had for girls actually were crushes. I felt all alone, everybody else I knew was straight, homosexuals were weird and kind of misfits so I did not want to be a lesbian and I cried a lot. Now I do have a lovely girlfriend and am happy and proud being who I am.:icon_bigg You have found this great community with lots of very friendly people you can talk to, that is a good start. In Sweden there is RFSL which has a section for young people, too. They have meetings all over the country and there is a hotline. What about your parents, do they talk about LGBT-issues in a negative way or why do you think that they would hate you being lesbian? Don't you think they want you to be happy? Big hugs!
Thank you for your all your support! My parents want me to have a boyfriend, and they say homosexuality must be some sort of disorder. :icon_sad: But they also say you have to be nice to them anyway, but I don't want to be seen as having a disorder.
Well, at least they don't think it's a choice! How do they feel about gay people themselves? Lots of pro gay rights people (including myself) look at homosexuality as a disorder of sorts (purely because it doesn't really benefit humans in any way, except as a form of controlling over-population, but that's a whole other debate). Edit, forgot to say: Don't cry, life's too short to be upset.
Hi there! Sorry to hear that your parents believe that homosexuality is a disorder. (*hug*) You know that it is not. Try to build up a strong support network for yourself first, which will help you in overcoming difficult times while coming out. It might even help you in finding a girlfriend when the time comes. Often times, as parents realize that their own child is homosexual, they begin to change their views, and educate themselves and can become even advocates for LGBTs. Stick around on EC, and know that we are here to help you.
Don't cry, we've all been there before. As long as you have internet, friends are just a couple clicks away!
I know how it is. I've cried countless nights away because of the to fact that I'm so confused about my sexuality. Try not to get too down about it, but if it becomes a consistent problem, I suggest seeing some type of counselor. I have to see one for my anxiety, and it feels good talking to her about my worries. You could probably get help with your shyness. If you feel uncomfortable with you counselor, just say so and I'm sure you can find another one. Since your parents might have a problem with it, why not try testing the waters a bit? Start bringing up topics on gays and lesbians and see their reactions first. Go from there.
Big hugs! I hope you feel better soon. Someday, I hope you will be telling your girlfriend about how you used to be so unhappy...before you met her. It will happen....
