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Should I ask him out?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by gaywill13, Nov 30, 2013.

  1. gaywill13

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    Okay, so there's this boy in my year who came out as bi last year, just a bit before I did. Now as soon as we met we became great friends, and he's my best friend. Now I have such strong feelings for him he's really good looking and I think he likes me. He knows I'm gay (he's the first guy I came out to) and likewise he came out to me first. Anyway, when I came out he said 'How do you know.' And I said 'because I have feelings towards a very close friend and he said in what I'd call interest and almost desire (I dunno, this may just be my mind) 'me?' And I asked 'what?' and he said 'oh, nothing, nothing.'
    So, should I ask him out?
     
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    If you he's interested and would say yes, go for it.
     
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    Go for it! As long as you understand that you are possibly risking a friendship, I think he probably likes you anyway. You only live once!
     
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    Never hurts to ask politely. Be prepared to accept rejection if he isn't ready to date yet.
     
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    It does seem like he is interested in you, but you can't tell everything from over the internet.
     
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    I'd say give it a shot, but make sure it won't make your friendship awkward.
     
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    Well, I asked him out and he said yes!(!) Over the moon for the first few days, but then today I got really nervous about what should I wear and stuff. After calming down and working everything out, the biggest worry came in. Should I make a move on him. I've asked a few friends and I got mixed opinions but the most common were if it feels right. Is this the 'right' way. Because all of these people were straight except one who said: "I'd say keep smiling and keep lots of eye contact and always look interested, then if it feels right, go in for touching (appropriately though haha omg) and just keep progressing slowly but comfortably xxx"

    Well?
     
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    :grin: yeah for you!!! Sounds perfect to me!
     
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    Congrats , I am happy for u (*hug*) .
    Hope everything go well :thumbsup: .