In about an hour i'll be going to an LGBT youth group; they'll be the first people outside of the internet who will know I'm gay. Is it normal to be shitting yourself in these sorts of situations?
Yes it is, but wearing diapers is probably premature! You'll be fine, pretend you're confident and strike up conversations; make believe you are comfortable, and before you know it, you will be! This is a natural step in the evolution of you: enjoy it!!
Pretty much, yes. Just take a deep breath, think calm thoughts, and remember that most of the folks you're about to meet are (or have been) where you are now. Be yourself, be honest, and be accepting of the people you meet as you would want them to be accepting of you. Have fun, Todd
Update: I went, and nothing went wrong (there wasn't even anyone from my school). I didn't talk much (this is more because of shyness), and for the first time I said out loud that I was gay. When I said I was gay it didn't feel like it was me talking; i thought the words, but they came out of my mouth almost without my knowing. Genrely I'm glad I went, but I'm not sure how I feel around the whole thing. I think I thought that I wouldn't have to accept it if no one knew. The feeling is...odd.
I think it's great that you decided to go to such a group and I'm glad to hear that it at least didn't go wrong. Are you considering going back or doing something similar?
Just know this, you are an inspiration to me I only wish we had a youth LGBT group nearby (which I think we don't but I could be wrong). Congratulations are being honest about yourself even though our sexuality is only a small part of who we are. Still, it's great that you did this! Thank you for sharing!
Great to hear that you went and it went well. I think I know what you mean. Even just joining this forum, I've felt a bit like that.
Go several more times at least, until it does NOT feel odd to you to be there. You know you don't need any diapers now, and nothing bad is going to happen. Next time you will probably not be as shy. Who knows, you might meet someone there you like next time.
I might not go again, partly because I don't go to things like this much, or ever, so my Mum and Dad were interested in what happened. It's too far to walk, so they would also need to take me there and pick me up : / I would like to go again at some part (the sixth form college I'll be going to next year is near there, so maybe I'll be able to go more regularly then), I just don't know how soon that time will be. Thanks for the advice though :icon_bigg
Sounds like some good reasons, so do whatever works for you and whatever you're most comfortable with. Whatever the case, I think this was overall good for you to at least try something new, and wish you all the best.
