Okies, so, I've been out for... going on four years now. I pretty much know what I don't like (I couldn't be intimate with any heterosexual man I've met so far), and what I want in a relationship, if not the specific bits. My Dad was raised by scary Dutch fundementalists, and he's on a 'just don't discuss it, don't wave it in our faces' kind of policy. My mom's gotten to the point where she can painfully joke about it, so I think she's going to be okay, but she flat-out rejects the idea of gay parenting. She's basically told me that she beleives it's unfair to the children and that if I am indeed gay she's not going to support my decision to have children alone or with someone else. I think this is the only part about being a whatever I am that still bothers me... I'm not sure how to discuss it with her or where to begin to support my argument. I don't really see myself as a woman, but I would be really upset never to have the experience of having children. :icon_sad:
Know whats also unfair to kids, alcohol abuse by the parent; physical abuse by the parent; divorcing of the parents. The divorce rate has gone down in canada since we allowed gay marriage. DOWN. It's actually better for the kids (statistically) to have gay parents, while yes they may get stigma associated with homosexuality watching their parents fight and then divorce is even more traumatising to me.
I concur. I think having an abusive/druggie/divorced/uncaring/neglectful parent is alot more traumatic than having a gay parent/s! Even if the kid gets a little flak in school, so what? Everybody gets a little flak in school. But no, better to be beaten than live with a gay parent! Or at least, that's how the US looks at things. I think it's really interesting that the divorce rate in Canada has decreased. Maybe because more people aren't trapped in loveless marriages so they can have children? Or because gay people can appreciate marriage and children a bit more than others because they're a true blessing in our circumstance?
Well i'm no specialist but has gone down and it's big ammo for the gay community when someone says "gay marriage is a joke, not love just sexual stuff."
There is a great book put out by the ACLU on same-sex parenting that refers to all the studies done on it. Go to the ACLU website and get it, it's free. I wouldn't worry so much about this right now. I bet by the time you have children, your mom's heart will melt and she will love your children as much as you do. Becky Proud Mom of a Gay Son and Two Straight Daughters
Well, I'm not exactly planning on waiting until I'm 40 to have kids... I do want to be young enough to have fun with them still XD. But I'll definitely check out that book, thanks ^_^
