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what the hell have i done..

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by livi, Dec 8, 2013.

  1. livi

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    In my coming out letter i explained how i was "contemplating the unthinkable" and my dad said "you are a complete fucking idiot and if you ever do anything like that then you better damn hope it works, in fact, im glad you felt like killing yourself!"
     
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    Oh my god... I am so sorry

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    (*hug*) Wow...what a dick! I've had plenty of people tell me how stupid it is to think of that (because obviously they TOTALLY understand what made you feel that way) but that's horrible!
     
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    You are so much better than he could ever be, stay strong.
     
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    Oh my, how can people think like that. I wish I could do something to help you.
     
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    That's so horrible! I'm so sorry that he reacted that way, and I hope, eventually, he will be too. I wish I could give you more than words. It sounds like you need a very large hug. :/
     
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    My sister thinks the same way about me to some extent for no rational reason. I'm sorry for your situation. He does not deserve to be a part of your life.
     
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    Don't know your father, but if mine said something like that to me, I'd know it would mean he was scared. Fight or flight, but there's nowhere to run so you lash out.
     
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    did he say why he feels that way? sad
     
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    That's... terrible. I am so sorry. It may not seem like it now, but these things do get better. Stay strong! (*hug*)
     
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    Homophobia is a sickness and when I was too scared to come out I let it take over my life. The only thing that can combat it is a strong will and perfect personal clarity over how you feel about yourself. Don't let him impact it! Be strong. Sorry you had to deal with that.
     
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    I'm very sorry to read that your dad said something like this. try to surround yourself with people who believe in you, and support you no matter what. Nobody should ever get such a response from a parent. (*hug*)
     
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    That is really, really terrible. God, I hope things get better for you quickly. I can't get over how sick it is that a parent would say things like that to their own kids just because of their sexual orientation. I wish I could reach through the screen and give you a hug!
     
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    That is a really heartless thing to say...
     
  15. Your dad's a :***::***::***:. Excuse my language. Don't listen to a word he says. I wish I could give you a hug right now. (*hug*)

    I'm so sorry he said that to you.
     
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    You did what you needed to do. In coming out, you identified one person you don't need in your life until he takes back that verbal pollution he spewed at you.
     
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    As far as advice goes, go and tell your mom. Talk to her about it.

    I wish I can justify that, but I just can't think of anything. Is he always aggressive like that? Maybe he meant it in a different way and he's horrible with words? I wish I could tell you that he really doesn't want you to kill yourself, and he's just really horrible with words. Maybe by "You better hope it works." meant "if you try and do that I will be pissed at you". I WISH I could say that, but I don't know your story. I don't fully understand your dad or your relationship with him. I just hope that this is the case, and you dad didn't want to threaten you. Regardless, that was a horrible thing to say whether he meant it or not. He should be nominated for the "Worst Dad" award.

    If my step dad said anything like that, I would go straight to my mom. I think you should do the same. Do you think your mom could talk some sense into him?

    That's horrible. If you need anything, everyone at EC is here for you. Feel free to talk all about you family issues here. And please stay strong.
     
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    OH MY GOSH! I am so sorry your dad is an asshole! That is just awful!
     
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    I feel so bad for you. surround yourself with supportive people and do alot of talking. I would try to cancel my dad out of my life untill he can give you a heartfelt meaningful apology
     
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    Oh god that is horrible Im so sorry