Hey guys. So, I know who I am and that I'm gay, but my problem with coming out is that, I'm very young. What makes this a problem is that anybody you tell says "oh it's just a phase" or "it's just your hormones talking". But anyway I know that I am gay and that its not just hormones. So, should I wait a few years to come out or is there any way I can completely seriously come out and be taken seriously?:help:
Okay, first of all, I want to congratulate you on your grammar. You give me hope for future generations. Now, the actual topic; this is a really difficult question as it is different for everyone. If you feel you need to come out to feel free, then it might be best for you to go for it. A lot of it also hinges on your parents. Do you know how they are towards LGBT folk? If they have any strong opinions against gay people, then it might be best to wait until you're no longer reliant on them as I have heard horror stories (including ones from thiose on this site) of parents using their children's reliance on them to control them. I don't want to scare you or anything, but it's something you need to be very careful about. As I said, the issue is difficult as everyone experiences it differently and everyone has different parents. Just remember to be careful and not to do anything rash.
If you want to come out to someone, please choose someone open, whom you can trust; someone who's willing to listen and treat you with respect. If you do come out and get the dismissive argument of "it's only your hormones", speak frankly and tell them how you feel, and tell them that your feelings aren't theirs to deny. Demand to be treated like a human being; with respect. If you feel it right to come out, just be honest and calm, and try to come out to someone who won't bully you into denying your sexuality. If you have school counsellors, teachers, parents, friends, or siblings who are accepting and will listen to you, you should speak to them. If you're not ready, or nobody is receptive, EC will always be here to help, and we're more than willing to listen and advise you when you need it.
Thanks all of you. I told my mother and she was quiet for a second... And then said: "I know." And left xD
am glad that your mum is supportive of you as for telling others you tell them when you feel your ready to tell them . welcome to EC
Well done on telling your mother! I wish mine was that easy about it but anyway are you planning on telling anyone else
Perants might put it on hormones (my mum put depression on hormones) however you must stand up for yourself and say "no I really am gay" don't come out until you are ready though
