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Old 20th Jun 2008, 12:41 PM   #1
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A space to vent your bad relationships/nonrelationships, whatever.

Here's Mine:

I really like this girl. She's a year younger than me and I met her a few weeks ago. She's just incredibly gorgeous (Not even exaggerating) and has the best eyes and the cutest laugh ever.

Yesterday I sent her a brief comment on MySpace asking how she was doing, etc. and when I got on today I noticed that she had been online, and had deleted it without replying. She's never given any sign that she doesn't like me other than that, but we barely know each other. We hang out with different people and don't really talk. So it could be that she just doesn't like me and never was able to show that.

I don't know. It's really painful though! I went out on a limb sending that and this is what I was afraid of!

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Old 20th Jun 2008, 12:49 PM   #2
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A space to vent your bad relationships/nonrelationships, whatever.

Here's Mine:

I really like this girl. She's a year younger than me and I met her a few weeks ago. She's just incredibly gorgeous (Not even exaggerating) and has the best eyes and the cutest laugh ever.

Yesterday I sent her a brief comment on MySpace asking how she was doing, etc. and when I got on today I noticed that she had been online, and had deleted it without replying. She's never given any sign that she doesn't like me other than that, but we barely know each other. We hang out with different people and don't really talk. So it could be that she just doesn't like me and never was able to show that.

I don't know. It's really painful though! I went out on a limb sending that and this is what I was afraid of!

Hi, and welcome to EC! I'm the resident trumpet player.

Myspace is such a weird place. I mean, I just joined and I'm kind of weirded out by somethings on there.

I did something similar to you, I commented my friend whom I used to like, with a simple "hey what's up".

The difference is she hasn't been online or deleted it.

My advice to you. Send her a private message, just ask her whats up. Some people don't like to hold conversations through the comment area. Everyone can see that. Also, some people don't even read comments, they just delete them. Don't assume anything until you know it

Good luck!

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Old 20th Jun 2008, 12:52 PM   #3
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Thanks! I feel better! I'll wait a few days and then message her. Nice to meet you! I like Empty Closets, it makes me feel more "normal". I haven't came out to anybody yet, so it's like I have a big secret. I feel better after I've left. Look forward to hearing that trumpet! =)

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Old 20th Jun 2008, 02:32 PM   #4
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Greetings and Thank you for joining our little-big Closet family

I first of all want to start off by saying i think u are probebly being a bit over your head. YES, it may sound harsh but shit happens and u can never tell. The first thing u do is look at the possibilities of why she would not reply (before resorting to her not likeing you).
Secondly, put yourself in her position. Did you leave your name? was your Avatar clear and atriculate as to who you were? Did she send a reply but somehow it got lost in cyberspace? was it even her online or was it someone else who just borrowed her computer and she had to make a quick sign out and maybe forgot to reply, vise versa; etc. You see, it's machine love and anything could happen. So look at it this way, try again...see what happens

Secondly, if u may...and u do not know her personaly. It's time for the next time you see her to go up to her and PROPERLY introduce yourself

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how does that sound. Make any sence?
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Old 20th Jun 2008, 04:23 PM   #5
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Theres this lad a year younger than me in school.

He acts really camp and anyone would just presume he was gay.

But he says hes not. I got a message in my turth box (on myspace) asking me if i was gay comment back...(im guessing he meant reply to it) around about the same time he added me.

Im not out yet. But i would love to just say yes.
It pisses me off that he could be gay and he could tell me and maybe have someone to talk to but im too much of a faggot to admit anything....

another thing...

Theres this ginger fucking slag who told me best friend "i know why he said you know everything, he's gay isnt he" okay the bitch is right...but no need to buzz of her nipples haha


vented...i need to phone a friend chris...
but ill wait until we've asked the audience.

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Old 20th Jun 2008, 06:04 PM   #6
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Oh dear. Well, I'm sorry. You COULD take a chance and say something. Then again, you could turn the question around...Say: "Are you gay?" But that might not work.
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Old 21st Jun 2008, 06:53 AM   #7
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Thanks! I feel better! I'll wait a few days and then message her. Nice to meet you! I like Empty Closets, it makes me feel more "normal". I haven't came out to anybody yet, so it's like I have a big secret. I feel better after I've left. Look forward to hearing that trumpet! =)
I do hope you stick around.We're here to help.

My friend accepted my comment, but didn't comment me back. So I'm sending her a private message. I'm pushy sometimes .
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Old 21st Jun 2008, 09:25 AM   #8
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I don't know. I just don't want it to be obvious. After all, she's straight (UGH) so I'm trying so, so hard to get over her. It's HARD! Good luck with your friend. She's online now and it's taking a lot of restraint to chill out and not do anything.
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