ok im pretty sure that my parents (well my mom) know that im gay lately she has been droping hints that she know.. its not to hard to see. but i dont know if im ready to tell them. because my dad has also been real depressed lately so i dont know if its because of me or what. but i could really use some advice right now. and my dad is pretty much a homophobe. im sorry if it doesnt sound to well put together i just dont know what to do
Well, would it be possible to tell your mom and make sure that she doesn't tell your dad? Just don't force it, do what feels right. If your dad is a homophobe, then maybe you should wait until you move out? If you aren't ready, then wait until you are. It's definitely best to come out eventually, but if there isn't any particular reason you would need to tell them now, maybe it can wait a bit? Also be sure to take a look at some of the helpful stickies regarding this: Stages of Coming Out Parent/Family Stages of Grief Good luck, and I hope you figure something out. (*hug*)
thanks i dont know if i can tell just my mom she will probably tell my dad. but im not worried about him kicking me out if he did i could go to my friends house. and i know he wont try to get physical because im a 1st degree black belt in tae kwon-do. and i know i can take him. i think i can tell my big bro he is like one of my best buds
Definitely tell your big bro. It's really helpful to find one person you can trust and you know will always be there for you. Tell him, talk to him about and see what he thinks about telling your parents. Best wishes.
Mothers very often DO tend to have a sixth sense about this sort of thing. They also tend to be far more protective of their offspring than (potentially) homophobic fathers. NEVER discount the maternal instinct. I would think seriously about "admitting" to your Mom what it appears likely that she already knows...but maybe expressing to her your concern about your father's opinion. In the meantime "practising" coming out on your Bro might not be a bad idea if you are pretty positive about his potential reaction. Your decision - but from what limited info you have posted I don't think that sounds like too bad a strategy. I'll leave it to you to decide if it is viable.
ok so i told my bro and my mom and they told me that they would wait till i was ready to tell my dad. so i guess i can just wait a little to tell him. God it feels good to be out to some people
