well, yesterday my bf broke up with me....he had his reasons and i understood....and he wants to still be like best friends and i'm happy about that....here's what i'm confused about.... there's this other friend i have stayed over on friday, the reason being that he was my sister's chambelan for her quince. he's gay and well, he had to sleep in my room...and well, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex.....i didn't feel any guilt for wat i did....that was the day before the break-up...then after the break-up i didn't feel as sad as i thuoght i would...probably because i knew that i didn't really loose him. my other freind stayed over again and for some reason i kinda like him.....idk...i'm really confused cause i just had a break-up....i wasn't affected much....and i was falling for another guy already...i mean....i kinda knew he liked me at one point too...but i don't feel guilty at all for what i'm doing....is that wrong? it feels like it's wrong but i don't feel guilty....
So let me get this straight. You're feeling guilty for not feeling guilty for something you think you should feel guilty about? I think they call this "over-thinking things". Yeah, it would've been nicer to break up with your guy BEFORE messing around with somebody else, but no worries. Lex
i guess that's how u put it.... um, but that whole thing that happened with the other guy was like kinda...unexpected....but i'm still kinda confused cause i mean i started liking someone else while in a relationship with my ex....
You don't have to feel guilty because he is still your friend. Just take life easy and don't over think things. But, I do it too and its hard to stop.
>>>....he was my sisters chambelan for her quince? He was one of the fourteen male escorts for his sister's quinceanera - 15th birthday party/dance. It's traditional to have a "court" for a quinceanera - fourteen female friends (damas) and fourteen male escorts for them (chamelanes). Lex
sept we only had three guys (Me, and him, and another friend) and four other damas....lolz. and yeah, i guess i am overthinking it...
Hey calm down, sex is meant to be fun not a huge guilt trip or a pledge of life long fidelity. You are probably not that upset about the break up because you didn't have very strong feelings for your b/f. You are young you are meant to live your life and enjoy it. You are allowed to have fun, you don't HAVE to feel guilty. Things were obviously not fine between you and your b/f otherwise he wouldn't have suggested you break up. Why on earth would having sex (for fun) with a guy you like and who is concenting cause you to feel guilty?! As for having feelings for another guy so soon after the break up it goes again to show that you b/f was not THAT important to you, yeah you liked him and yeah you are going to stay friends but that is all. Cut yourself some slack. I am not especially and advocate of gratuitous sex (in that it is not the way I have chosen to live my life) but you are young, not in an exclusive long term relationship, you have every right to enjoy your life, experiment there are somethings you won't like or will regret, you learn the lesson and move on, guilt will get you no-where, and there are somethings you will feel good about. Keep the good, put the bad to the back of your mind, learn the lesson and move on. Life is difficult enough without adding guilt trips to everything which could be considered 'morally wrong' by others.
you know what? just by reading your post i do feel a bit better, Louise. i thank you from the bottom of my heart. I'm not gonna let this get the best of me...
