Hey, I'm a 15 year old girl. I'm confused about my sexuality and have been for a couple of years. When I was 13 it first came to me that I was different from all my friends (which were girls) because they would talk about boys and I didn't have any interest in it. I would then sit for hours on end every night trying to work out if I was gay. It would drive me insane to the point of me breaking down. :bang: Eventually the thoughts went away and every now and again come back (Quite often). Now is one of those moments and I've finally decided to come on a site like this for help from people who have been through what I'm going through or are going through it. I've noticed that I often found myself looking at girls and always feel slightly uncomfortable around them. I still feel in a way that I am slightly attracted to men and have dated boys in the past so I am beginning to think maybe I'm bi sexual. There's points where I've tried looking at myself in the mirror trying to get myself to accept that I may be a lesbian or that I might be bi. I never manage to though and I am always in denial. I think the main reason I am is because of the thought of having to come out. My mum has a couple of friends that are gay but I don't think she would accept the idea of it being her own daughter. My stepdad I think will struggle to accept it but will eventually come round. I have a best friend that I think would completely support me but would act a bit weird at first. I think my friend would be only the person I'd tell until I had actually dated a girl to see if it's right. Sorry for this being so long but it's nice to finally get this off of my back. I guess what I'm asking is have you got any advice about finding your sexuality, how to accept yourself and get past the denial stage and any tips about what I should if I do end up having to come out. :help: By the way I understand that this could just be a stage but it's lasted two years so I feel that it is more than that. Thanks for any help and taking time to read this Chloe x :icon_bigg
Hey Chlo, You don't ever have to label yourself (it seems like you are worried about that). I don't really have any advice on getting out of denial, but it's something that comes in time, I believe. You don't ever have to come out, but for me I feel a lot more like myself when I am out to people. Good luck!(*hug*)
I've been out to my family for about two years now, and even now I still sometimes struggle. But I figure the more I explore myself the more I'll be confident about it. I was around your age when I started feeling that exact same way. My friends would be talking about boys all the time and I'd be so uninterested and wanted to change the topic. I couldn't and still can't understand why they'd want to date them. Most of my nerves around girls was because I wanted them to like me and accept me, and I was comfortable around guys, hence the reason why I to this day have more guy friends than girl friends. This part took me until recently to figure out about myself, as I closed myself off a lot as a teen and didn't allow myself to have the experiences that others did. I'd say find some support from friends that you know are allies or LGBT themselves, that's what I did, I confided in a friend who happens to be super supportive and he's there for me if I need any questions answered as my family is still not comfortable with me. I'd also say to follow your heart and do what makes you happy. In summary, be yourself!
