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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by RyuKenShiro, Jan 8, 2014.

  1. RyuKenShiro

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    Hey,
    I'm bi i haven't told anyone about it yet, not outside the net any, and i have a close friend,i think i want to come-out to him, but i'm not sure if/when to do it
    any suggestions/help? i'd really appreciate any help. I'm scared to tell anyone out of fear of rejection >< :help:
     
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    IF you trust the guy enough to tell him then I'd say go for it, but maybe you might want to ask him a few questions about gay/Bisexual to see how he thinks of them, if he doesn't like the idea of gays and bisexuals it might be best not to come out to him.
     
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    What's your friends opinion on gay/bi people?
     
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    ^^^^^
     
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    he said he doesn't care if people are, but since we're like family i can imagine it might stop him talking to me :frowning2:

    ---------- Post added 11th Jan 2014 at 01:14 AM ----------

    i'm just scared of being back with no friends i guess, i know it's selfish
     
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    Hi there! It is understandable if you are nervous and are wondering if it is such a good idea to come out to your friend. The first coming out, is always the hardest. You are trying to let go of something you have kept inside of yourself for some time now.

    You already know that your friend doesn't care. So it stands to reason that the chances of him stopping to speak with you, are pretty slim.

    What might help is for you to stand in front of a mirror and say out loud that you want to come out to your friend and try to gauge how you feel. Try to work on becoming comfortable with the idea of coming out, and being out. It might take a bit of more time for you to reach that stage, but that's okay. Take the time you need. :slight_smile:
     
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    If he cares enough about you, he shouldn't care what gender you like.
    A great friend will always be there for you. Because they like you for who you are, and I don't think a different sexuality will stand in the way of that. XD
    It's not like you're going to say "Hey, I'm bisexual" and you change into a completely different person. He will stick by you if he knows that it's not going to turn out like that.
    And I'm pretty sure he does.
     
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    If he respects you enough for your individual qualities then he would not be bothered about your orientation.

    Perhaps you could give hints at first so he doesn't have any initial shock.