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Confused Bisexual

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by zebragirl22, Jan 9, 2014.

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  1. zebragirl22

    zebragirl22
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    Out to everyone
    I have been really confused lately.

    I am a female bisexual and I have been in a relationship with a girl for 4 months. This year was the only year in college that I have been openly bisexual. When I was in high school I had a girlfriend for about 3 weeks but I got scared, so I got out of it and haven't dated a girl again since now and I couldn't be happier with her!

    My issue now is that, since being in a relationship with a girl, more recently I have been finding that I have not been finding men attractive. A little back story, I have been with my fair share of men. I am thinking now that I am WAY more attracted to women. I'm not sure if it is because I am in a relationship but even when I have dated men, I still found other men attractive. Is it weird for something like that to happen? It is kind of just freaking me out because I used to be so "boy crazy" and now when I look at them, I don't see anything special, but when I look at a woman I think she is so beautiful and amazing.

    I know this might sound silly, but could being in a relationship have set off something in my brain that has been there but was maybe too afraid to come out before?

    I guess my real question is really, could I possibly be a lesbian and not bisexual?

    I'm not asking for definite answers, just maybe some support and feedback.

    Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this. It really means a lot to me :slight_smile:
     
    #1 zebragirl22, Jan 9, 2014
  2. i like rain

    i like rain
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    it's possible to be more attracted to one gender then the other, i personally find myself more attracted to men then women, i was also more attracted to the opposite sex but after a while i found myself more more attracted to men. i think its because i accepted my sexuality more, that i was able to find out which gender i found myself more attracted to.
    though i can't really answer if your bisexual or a lesbian it's certainly not odd to find that your more attracted to one gender then the other.
     
    #2 i like rain, Jan 9, 2014
  3. saucescource

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    Some good insight I was given by a uni mate was that he believes sexuality isn't one way or another and you can place yourself any where between the Gay ----BI----Straight you could be more Gay then BI, less straight then gay (Like 70% to the 30% idea)
    I found more room for individuality and personal experiences when he explained so it helps you too.

    I wish you a long a prosperous love life :slight_smile:
     
    #3 saucescource, Jan 10, 2014
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