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I don't think my mom is going to believe me...

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  1. YuriBunny

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    Okay so I was planning to come out to my mom soon, but after what she said today, I'm beginning to think she wouldn't believe me. She said something along the lines of, "You're way too young to be thinking about romance, you can worry about that when you're an adult. At your age, you shouldn't know what kind of people you like. :eusa_naug" I'm fourteen, and I'm sure I'm a lesbian. But I think if I told her she would tell me that I'm too young to know, and I don't think I'd be able to get her to understand how much thought I've put into it and how sure I am. :icon_sad: I'm totally old enough to know! Please help! :help:
     
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    Ask her how old she was when she had her first crush. I bet you she wasn't 18. I think regardless of sexual orientation a lot of parents don't like to think about their kids growing up and having romantic and sexual feelings and eventually finding a partner and leaving the house. Hell, I'm 26 and sometimes my parents still would rather think of me as the little boy they had to buckle into a carseat haha
     
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    Actually, my mom is constantly reminding me that I need to get a boyfriend, and someday have a husband. :eusa_doh: I think she does believe I'm old enough to have crushes, just not to have a 'type' exactly. I'm not sure liking girls is having a 'type of people you like', but I think she would feel the same way about this. She also keeps telling me I should move out of the house as soon as I can. :confused: I hope I won't have to wait until I'm an adult to come out to her just because otherwise she might not believe me. Then again, maybe she'll never believe it.
     
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    Come out to her anyway. If she doesn't believe you then realistically it's not the worst thing that could possibly happen. Why should you live in the closet until your 18 just because she won't believe it? At least if you've told her you don't have to hide it.
     
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    True...
     
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    I agree come out anyway why should you stay in the closet if your ready to come to your mum do it
     
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    I agree with what everyone else said that you should come out
     
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    When I told my mom, she thought I was confused and I'm 21! So I don't think things will necessarily change when you're an adult...why not try to come out to her now? Especially if she's telling you to have a boyfriend/husband. You should let her know that you like girls, not guys, and I don't think any age is too early or too late to know for sure!
     
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    Well I'm not really ready though. And I'm gonna be pretty annoyed with her if she doesn't believe me. I'm going to come out to my dad first because I know from him I'll get a much better reaction.

    Lol, I wouldn't really be surprised if she still thought I'm confused when I'm an adult.

    Well I guess she'll never believe me anyway. Might as well just tell her.
     
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    "Well I'm not really ready though"

    Then don't do it yet. The last thing we want to do is pressure you in to doing something you're not comfortable with.
     
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    Well first I'm going to come out to my dad. But I was just thinking, for when I do tell my mom.
     
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    Tell here you think you are mature enough to have a relationship and when the subject of Sexual Orentation comes up just say I'm attracted to females.
     
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    Lol I doubt the subject of sexual orientation would ever come up long enough for me to say that. :lol: Whenever my sister or I say something about anything LGBT, my mom interrupts and tries to steer the conversation in a different direction. :dry: It clearly makes her uncomfortable.
     
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    At least that's better than my mom, who goes on a rant about how how the gay lifestyle is a wrong lifestyle whenever LGBT subjects come up. I'm 25 and haven't yet been able to come out to my mom because of how she reacts. I am out to my dad and my siblings and some relatives. I just came out this past summer. It's tough knowing what to do, but hopefully your mom will love and accept you. I hope mine will.
     
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    Eek, that's awful. :icon_sad: My mom just sort of thinks that gay people are okay, but doesn't want her own daughter to be one. She keeps reminding me that I'm supposed to have a husband someday. :dry: She wants me to be as normal as possible, and being a lesbian is absolutely not her definition of normal. I think when I tell her she won't believe me either because she thinks I'm just young and confused or because she doesn't want to believe it. At least she isn't homophobic, but it's still very annoying that she assumes I'm straight. Your mom sounds frustrating...
     
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    Wow i'm going through the same thing with my parents but I'm not out to any of them and both my mom and dad say negative things about lgbt people my dad calls lesbians dykes in front of me and my mom says they will go to hell and it's a vice .
     
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    Yikes... that's bad too... :confused:
     
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    Your right about that I hate that my parents do this and I feel like i'll never come out because of this
     
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    She said
    There's a difference between saying your too young to be thinking about being in a relationship and knowing your type versus knowing "your type" is female
     
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    I would probably never tell them if my parents were like that. :icon_sad:

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    Yeah, but I feel like they'd be the same to my mom.
     
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