Alright i haven't done this ever before,(except for gaming websites). ive been really confused for a while now... but the confusion is at it's worst everytime i start dating a girl. Ive tried talking to my uncle (who is gay) he says he understands whats bothering me but one persons opinion or story isnt relle helping. i havnt been able to tell which way i swing for a while now, its always a touchy subject, even when im trying to figure it out in my own head. ive only had one kind of emotional attraction to a guy and he was my best friend back in elementary school and most of highschool. he came out to me after i had a really bad breakup, and he only came out cuz i was talking to another guy who, ironically he was friends with, and his friend told him, and we kinda came out about it to each other but it never went any further. ive always been attracted to guys sexually but as soon as im done watching porn i feel disgusting, but i kno that theres more to it than that. Im worried about how to figure out what is goin on in my head. my friends growing up never had a problem with gay people but we mad alot of jokes, so many that i make them out of habit now, but i feel hypocritical when i do. im worried that if i do follow my gut and try things out with guys that i wont fit in with other gay guys, im a nerd i play games i love football, i love country music and trucks, i dont feel like the typical gay guy i see. im scared to death of actually admitting that im gay/bi because me and my friends were brutal i kno how brutal they are i was part of it, i mean we got on the school loudspeaker and, well it got bad. but im afraid because i dont want them to shun me and i dont want all that aimed at me. I have a gay uncle and my step-aunts are lesbians. ive talked to my uncle but my step aunts i havnt cuz even thou we all know they lesbians, its not a public thing we know, they know. theres no pda. part of me wants to go with my uncle to philly one night and meet all these guys he hangs out with, jus to maybe be reassured idk.
Hi, From reading this it sounds like you might be gay, but only you can be the judge of that. What exactly did you say to your uncle and what was his response? You have an advantage of a gay uncle and lesbian aunties, so your best bet is to try and communicate with them as best you can. You have sexual desires for men, what about emotional feelings? Do you have any sexual or romantic emotions for women? As for fitting in, you don't have to fit the stereotypical gay personality and there are gay people of all different kinds, just as there are a wide range of different straight people.
Dude! 80% of gay men don't fit the gay stereotype!!! Who makes the gay stereotype? Straights do. Why do they select this stereotype? They are as dumb as a herd of pigs and unless the stereotype doesn't scream in their face they miss it. You do fit the gay stereotype, for there is NO STEREOTYPE except to truly ignorant straights.
Sexual desires yes emotionally , well thats the confusing part.i kno not fittin in sounds weird but its more of ive only had a few experiences with other guys. There was one kid in school i couldnt stand because he used him being gay to get away with everything. Then there was another kid who i thought was cool as hell always talked to him new he was gay but he didnt use it to get out of trouble. And there was a friend who came out to me. I guess it was how i was raised that it causing conflicts with me wanting to experiment, im attracted to guys but i think its how my family/home town was growing up where i want too but my mind keeps trying to shove all of these thoughts away ---------- Post added 23rd Jan 2014 at 09:46 AM ---------- And yeah women is all ive been with and i dont even wanna have sex with my Girlfriends after a while
There is no typical gay guy, just gay guys in all flavors, just like with straight guys. Gay guys tell gay jokes, just like straight guys do. Gay guys like some other guys, and dislike others. Find some guy you like who is gay and see how it feels; if it feels right, you are probably gay. It is as simple as that. You probably will not know who you are until you do.
