The "Coming Out" Strategy/Conversation

That's how I did it. It evolved into a guessing game until my best friends guessed correctly. I think they were more surprised that I had the guts to tell them rather than that I was telling them I'm gay.

After the first time, it was a lot easier to tell other people directly. But maybe that's just me? =]

 

I've done the "there's something that I need to tell you" way and the inserting it into the conversation way. The "something that I need to tell you" method can be a bit more awkward, and it's a bit more scary.

Another method that I use is to bring up an LGBT news topic and then use that as a stepping stone to smoothly transition into coming out. This way, I'm not as freaked out, and it's a little bit less awkward.

You just need to find what way you think will work best for you, and then you can work from there It took me a while to figure out the way that I come out to people in person.

 

I find the "There's something I need to tell you, no no don't worry it's all good..." approach is usually for people you've known for a while, and that probably guessed incorrectly (or based on little white lies you may have committed) that you were straight. When in a conversation with people you hardly know (friends of closer friends at a party for example), it's easier to slip it in a conversation

 

I had a conversation with a female friend about which same-sex actors we each found most attractive, which later led to me telling her that I like lots of male actors because I'm bi.

 

I did exactly the same way, and after the first one it was easier for me too, so It's not just you.

 

I sorta did it like Brad. Except I say it more like "there's something that I'd like to tell you." I usually engage them in conversation a bit to build up to it. Just running up to people and blurting it out would be weird, imo. xD

 

The first time i told someone directly was one of my friends,i was having a conversation and we where talking about expressions and sayings and i said "do u know the saying,the best men are ever gay or taken,well in not taken" it tooke them a good few seconds to get it

 

With the people I came out to I did use the phrase 'I need to tell you something...' and automatically they assume it will be something negative and I couldn't spit it out - they asked 'What is it?' over and over again and I just sort of laughed and panicked before just saying 'I like guys...' before rushing to say 'but i'm still me, still the person you know!' It is scary to tell them but if you do tell them directly just remember that their reaction might not be indicative of their true feelings towards you being a part of the LGBT community. One of my closest friends sort of fell on the floor and wouldn't believe it for a while and I had to continually tell her I wasn't lying - it was terrifying but we're closer than ever now.

 

I was talking with a friend of mine and told him that I wanted to have a LGBT/Alice in Wonderland themed party...so that I could have little cakes shaped like dicks that said “eat me”

it took him a minute but he got it asked me if I was gay I said yes and then I was teased very much
he was very accepting though <3