Why Am I Scared to Tell my Dad?

Have you talked to your mum about your fears? Even though they seem irrational, it's ok to be afraid, and she wont think you're stupid if you tell her.

 

This is what I was told by another ec member. The scariest thing is the what ifs. What if they think of you differently, what if they don't approve, etc. But if you know that your dad will be fine with it,then you pretty much just have to go out and say it. It takes a lot of courage, but you'll thank yourself later.

 

I wouldn't worry too much about that since you are only 14, which is earlier than when most people come out. I'm sure it will work out

 

I think only you can answer that question. I'm sure there's some reason why you're so nervous, but again, only you can know why. Maybe you two are very close? Daddy's little girl? Talk to your mom about it, get her opinion. Trust thy mother.

 

I told my mom at 14, but I didn't tell my dad until I was 20- and he was fine with it. I think It's just an irrational fear we sometimes have that dads will be less accepting?

 

It looks like your mom is fine with it so even if your dad would not react the way you want him to react you still have a lot of support from your mother. And I don't know how it is in your family but my mother is the supreme ruler in the family hahaha

 

If it's any consolation, I came out to my parents yesterday; I'm 28, I know full well that my parents have zero issues with gay folk, and I get on very well with them, and I still was so nervous I was literally shaking, and continued to do so for about 10 minutes after I told them even though it went as well as it possibly could have.

I think it's hard because if you care enough about what they think, it would be absolutely devastating if it didn't go well. Regardless of how unlikely that would be, it's still tough to keep your mind off those what-ifs, as Bring It said.