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  1. EM68

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    I finally had the courage or right mind set (not too sure which) to change my orientation on my profile as gay. I have been thinking about doing this for a couple of days but decided today was the day. I am not too sure why I was making a big deal of it. I am soo much happier now than I have been in a long time. I feel like a huge burden has been taken off of my back!: :icon_bigg
     
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    You changed it to Gay on EC?
    :] If so, then congratulations on being true to yourself :] :eusa_clap


    OR did you change it to Gay on another website?
     
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    On this site. I had my orientation as more likely than not I am gay.
     
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    Congratulations! Way to go. You have really come a long way. I am so happy for you. I felt the same way when I made that change.
     
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    Great step. It's pretty nice over here, ain't it? :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    Congrats :slight_smile: It seems like a silly thing, but when I did I felt great as well.
     
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    At first I thought it was a little silly that I waited to do this but its a big step for me mentally. I feel great!
     
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    Everybody goes according to their own timing. You have come a long way!

    Congratulations! :slight_smile:
     
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    congrats!!!
     
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    Awesome! Self-realisation is the first, great step. I still have an unsure orientation on my profile, but that's more because I really still am a little unsure. But I'm getting the feeling that it would be more truthful to put "lesbian" on there some time soon. Anyway, congratulations!!! (*hug*)
     
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    Congrats! That's a really big step. I'm proud of you!
    I still have a "mix of bi" in me because...well, there's this one guy...:rolleyes:
    But otherwise I'm so totally lesbian to the core.
    If there wasn't that one guy...:rolleyes: then I would probably have just lesbian...but, well, there still is that one guy...:rolleyes: So I guess I'm stuck :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
    Congrats again!
     
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    Well done mate,
    Early days for me aswell, but the sky didn't fall down, and the world didn't end as I thought it would.
     
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    The sky did not end! Today was a crappy day at work but I am in the best mood that I have been in a long time. I feel great. I can hardly describe it.:thumbsup:
     
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    CONGRATS! I know exactly how you feel. it took me forever also to change my orientation and to begin being able to accept it. actually before i came to this site, i didnt like it at all and wanted to change and stuff, but after a couple months, i changed and it has gone soo good! ever since i came to this website, i've totally accepted the fact that i was gay, love the fact that i am because im unique and all, and have actually come out to people! I'm positive you'll do they same! It's pretty hard and stressful at first, but you can do it also =] !
     
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    good job! still a long ways to go
     
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    I just emailed the local PFLAG group and found out their next meeting is on the 28th. I am planning to go. I can't wait. It seems that things over the past few weeks have gone so quickly. Did you guys find that the case when you finally came to terms with your sexuality?
     
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    When I realised that I was gay, I did feel like the first few weeks went by in a flash. All these new feelings... it felt like everything changed so quickly. Unfortunately, some things can still take a long time to change and even months later you may find there are things which you still find hard, like I do. But you have to hang on to that joy of being honest with yourself :grin:
     
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    I totally know how you feel, its just small step that mentally means a lot!
     
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    I remember the first time I acctually accepted I was gay and it felt brilliant!! Despite still feeling scared and a little confused about things the relief and clarity is so nice. Everything does feel like a little bit of a fast blur, same as when you come out to people - well I still find that anyway.
    So well done there!!!! Congrats and I hope the PFLAG group meeting goes well :grin:
     
    #19 yahooooo, Jul 11, 2008
  20. Leigh

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    woohoo !!!:eusa_clap
    congrats :icon_bigg
     
    #20 Leigh, Jul 11, 2008
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