Okay, I need advice on my problems. 1: I have a crush on one of my friends, James, this Valentines Day my school had a dance. I gave him a flower but he shaked his head and pushed away the flower. Now i dont know what to do. 2: At my grandmas, with my mom. I was trying to say "Can i have a bag?" to my mom, but my grandma thought i said "your a f:***:g" then they started laughing. Now i have a different immpression of them. That makes it even harder to come out to my family. 3: I came out to my two sisters a little while ago, but they never said anything after that. No, "Are you okay?", "Are you sure about your gay", "I love you", It makes me wonder, do they even care?, That i might be bullied about my sexual orintation or that i might even have a relationship. (Which i don't) These are my problems that i have right now. Please help me i am in need of advice. Grade 7 Josh <3 :help:
Advice on problem 1: Ask James about it. Pushing the flower and shaking his head might have been his way of saying "Sorry, I'm not gay." He might have been so surprised or embarrassed and he couldn't think of anything to say. Seeing how he reacts at school would be a better way of telling what he thinks about LGBT people. 2: Well, they could have been laughing over how funny the misunderstanding was. In my family, whenever someone misheard you, you just put 'cupcake' in as the word they got mixed up and everyone has a good laugh over it. To be honest, I think that that mishearing of such an innocent question is pretty darn hilarious. 3: Well, these are you're little sisters... That sounds like something like a typical 2nd grade or younger kid's response. They wouldn't know how difficult it is saying that kind of thing, or how much people really care about that kind of thing like if you're gay or not. They're pretty much not as ready to handle such huge information at that age. So, it all could be just a bunch of misunderstandings. And to be honest, when going through the coming out process like I am you're constantly looking for matters that might not have gone right, and a lot of it is just honest misunderstandings.
Well, if you've never seen James look at any girls it's possible he's gay and not comfortable with himself, or if he is gay and comfortable with himself but closeted he may not want to take your friendship in that direction. Do you have his cell? Call if you normally talk outside of school, or text, see how he responds first before jumping to conclusions. Regarding your sisters, um, yeah, that is just messed up. They are old enough to understand what being gay in school means for their younger brother. They are old enough to be over the whole sibling rivalry/jealousy thing and be more interested in your well-being as a brother.