Okay.. So I dont think this is really the biggest deal, but it still bothers me. Two of my best friends have notified me that they dont believe in bisexuality. One of them is gay, the other is a girl and I think both of them are convinced that I am going to decide im gay one day. I really dont know why this bothers me so much, but it does. I have sat down and explained to them that i AM attracted to girls, but they dont really belive me and I dont know how to convince them. Has anyone else had this problem or have any advice on the issue?
That's why I'm staying ''all straight'' lol. Maybe kiss a girl in front of them or some how let them catch you looking at girl porn? Idk.
hahaha. I would say for most people thats good advice.. but the relationship my friends and I have...that would probably be one of the funniest most awkward situations ever haha. What do you mean youre staying all straight? sorry I didnt get it?
Your sexuality belongs to you. and it is unique to you. You don't to explain, prove or justify anything to anyone else- now or in the future.
This is probably the best thing anyone can tell you. This is what I believe, that sexuality belongs to one person and they don't have to explain themselves to others about it.
I have to agree 101% on this. In the end, nowadays, I never argued with my mates about it. I just leave it like this: "Ooh, I like it that way, hehe!". And I shrug this off!
It is actually quite ironic, when I was younger (14-15) I held this same view. No such thing as bisexuals, either gay or not. Obviously I don't think that anymore, and like KaraB said you don't have to explain to people who obviously could not understand anyways.
It really frustrates me that this view is around. I know that some people do initially think or say that they are bisexual before they realise that they are actually gay, but it IS a valid orientation - and people can lie anywhere along the spectrum. It's funny too, because many people pass through a time when they say/think they are straight before they realise that they're gay - and no one says that there's no such thing as being straight! If anyone ever tells me that there's no such thing as bisexuality, then I will just tell them that it's amazing how they seem to know what goes on in my head and who I fall for more than I do. Try telling your gay friend that he's straight and your straight friend that she is gay. See how they like that.
Agreed! You don't have to explain yourself to your friends. You are you. If your friends come up to you again and tell you that bisexuality doesn't exist tell them your are living proof that it does exist and leave the conversation at that. Yes, there is the chance that your feelings might change down the road, but there is also an equal chance that they will not. In other words, bisexuality is an integral part of you.
There's a bisexuality Q&A in our resources section here which may help you with some ways to answer them if needed. I agree with those above though, it's your sexuality.
Yeah if they don't believe thats there problem, tell them that its fine that they don't believe. Its not like its going to affect your friendship or anything, because you're sexuality is not your entire life, it is part of who you are, but there is so much more to you as an individual than just that. If it does in any way affect the way your friends view you, then get better friends, seriously.
Thanks you guys. Theres a lot of good advice here and Im pretty surprised that there were so many responses when I checked back in. And I suppose I really shouldn't worry about what they think. I guess its just something I wish they believed ya know? But I suppose as long as I know what I like it doesnt matter.
Yes! What counts is that you have accepted yourself and feel comfortable with it. It's too bad that sometimes friends are accepting though yet they are not. Maybe one day they'll come around to it that yes bisexuality does exist and its a sexual identity like any others. I would follow Paul's advice as well. Print out the Q and A, and should the conversation come up again just give it to them. A bit of education can never hurt!
My PARENTS don't believe in bisexuality, which is why I still haven't told them anything. Though I'm not too sure that I actually am bi, so I'm probably a bad person to prove this point (I'm leaning towards gay, not straight)