my mom still wont talk to me

I'm really sorry. (*hug*) We can hope that your Mom will come around. At least you still have your Dad. I know that, that is not much comfort. All I can say is that I'm sorry.

 

You did nothing wrong my friend,
And you're father is simply doing what he must,
Which is defending his son.

Your mother needs to be the one to get over it!

 

i feel for you, a month isn't such a long time, think of how long it took to come out to her. i wish my mom had given me the silent treatment LOL at least about that. when i did get the treatment i gave it right back,it let them know how hurtful it can be.

 

i might sound wrong but if i were you i would go and confront my mom and i'd say,"why are you avoiding me mom? because i'm gay? its like saying you wanted a boy but unfortunately you gave birth to a girl. i know you don't want me to be gay, i don't want me to be gay either but i AM so we both HAVE TO accept it, there's no cure ok and why should there be?its not a disease. the important thing is, whatever my sexual orientation is i will still be your kid and you still my mother and i'll still love you as i used to but MAYBE i'll love you even more if you support me. i made it clear from my side mom, i want you to love me".

 

if you get too emotional whats the problem in it? let it flow, i'm sure she will feel SOMETHING deep inside and maybe then give you a hug? but you know what, i would actually say those things i've written above and if she still doesn't show any change in her behavior i'll avoid her like anything(don't do it ok but thats what 'I' would do). because i HAVE the right but she DOESN'T have the right....to act immature!!

 

That's so awful. Hang in there; hopefully she will come around with a bit more time. I'm relieved that the rest of your family is on your side.

 

ok sorry mikey i didn't know that. but yeah things might get normal, better late than never.
bytheway on the bright side, YOU HAVE US YAY!!

 

I'm so sorry

(*hug*)

 

Try to get your dad to talk to her. Maybe she'll listen to your dad but not you because you're gay and he isn't. If anyone can talk some sense into her head it would be her husband.

 

I'm sorry to hear that. Your coming out story has always stuck with me, I honestly wish I could just give you a hug.

As for your mum, it doesn't sound like it's worth trying to build a relationship with her. At least you have your dad and your brothers.

 

At least she still loves you? She'll probably get use to the idea with some time I guess unless she's like my parents.

 

For many people, embarrassment is truly a fate worse than death. It is very hard to overcome because it is intimately linked with shame. She is conscious of one thing, almost to the exclusion of everything else: what will others think?

The phrase "coming to terms" means dealing (making a deal) with things that can't be changed, she will never make a deal with you if you show any signs of uncertainty about who you are. So even though it may be tempting to give an inch, she will turn that into a mile.

Let her grieve, she needs to take the time to work through how she feels. This is no guarantee however that she will ever come to terms, so if it comes to that, you yourself may need to accept that. You can't wait for her approval in order to live your life. You need to be who you are as of right now, and that includes relationships.

 

Like I said, it doesn't sound like it's worth trying to build a relationship with her. You've done nothing wrong.

If I were you I wouldn't let her bother you, nor would I hold onto the hope that she'll come around, if one side isn't interested in building a relationship then it's just not possible to.

 

I'm really sorry about your situation. If your mom is religious, maybe this story could be helpful.

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