Hey, I'm a 20yo bi guy in need of advice. I'm not the sort of person to ask for advice so I might not be good at it... I have a guy friend who is a year younger than me. We have been friends for a few years now. He always acts straight. Once though I had suspicion that he was gay but after that he was with a few girls so I always thought it was only my imagination... However recently I started to suspect he is gay/bisexual again. We're good friends. We never fight and laugh together all the time. I love making him laugh. sometimes we hold eye contact for more than a few seconds. I have the feeling that he comes up with excuses to touch me or get closer though that myght really be just my imagination. I've heard other "friends" talk about homosexuality negativly but I've never heard him do it. He is always silent and looking others to say something. He looks somewhat uncomfortable when the subject arises and I've never heard him say anything about homosexuality at all... we joke sometimes like we're gay and in love and he doesn't look uncomfortable and laughs...I want him to be my friend because I trust him more than any other person in the world even though we don't see each other that often. I don't need our relationship to be sexual/romantic but I do wish for it to be. I want to hear your advice. Might he be gay/bisexual? Should I ask him? How? What if he says no? What if he says yes???? Is it just bromance mixed with my imagination/hopes? Thanks in advance=)
I would like to come out to him...should I? I just wish to know if he's bi or not before I do that...
I've been there many times and for me they've always ended up straight, getting married etc. It has worked out for other guys at least I've read, and I hope it'll work out for you. The sure bet is to seek guys who are openly gay and avoid the frustration of ambiguous guys, but I know it's easier said than done.
The trouble ist that while I don't mind to frickle frackle with more feminine guys I believe that the point of being gay/bi is liking the same sex and I'm romanticaly only atracted to boys that act like boys not like girls...btw I am not particulary against feminine guys I just like testosterone=) I hate that people think gays are all feminine...
No i think that you should definitely tell him as casually as possible and then if he is also gay/bi then he will respond
No one here can really say if he is or isn't gay/bi. Since you have a good friendship, and since he doesn't outwardly display negativity towards gay people, I'd say it's probably safe to come out to him. As for expressing your interest in him as a potential bf, that should come after his own disclosure, and he confirms he is in fact gay or bi. Should you decide to come out, I'll bet he'll tell you right then and there if he is or isn't. The way you describe him, it sounds to me like he'll continue to be your friend regardless. ~good luck!
What he said. Start by coming out to him, he sounds like he will accept you. If he tells you he is gay/bi, it should be OK to tell him you like him.