paid to date a girl??

Go for the dignity, you'll thank yourself later in life.

 

Stand up to her, definitely... the fact you spend too much money is an entirely different issue, and your relationship with your mom is worth a lot more than $1000. You have to make her accept and embrace it.

 

I think you should stand up to her.
By taking the money, and going on the date with a girl that is just a friend, is going to make your mother believe that you can change your sexuality, which isn't true.
also it will probably make you unhappy in the end.
How long can you play straight?
and if the majority of your family/friends are supportive, you could possibly ask them to talk to your mom with you.
I don't know i hope i helped, i just think that you should keep your dignity and stand up for who you are! : )

 

Carry it through past the money changing hands.

Say you find a girl to do this.
You go out with her, and play tonsil hockey with her right in front of your mother.
She (presumably) gives you $1000.

...then what?

Do you take the check and say, "Thanks, sucker", and go back to dating guys?
Do you bring the girl over every month or so to do a repeat performance to keep mom from getting suspicious?

If she literally and truly will give you $1000 to go on a date with a girl, tell her to give the money to your dad in escrow, find a girl to do it, collect the cash...

...and give her at least $250 of it. It's only fair.

Lex

 

Personally, I think your dignity is worth more than a thousand dollars. Plus, if you did this, you would be giving your mom false hope, and when she found out, she'd probably be pretty upset about giving you a thousand dollars on false pretenses as well. It just seems like a very bad idea to me.

 

Explain to your mom that a date is not going to change your orientation. If she still wants the bet, take her up on it and collect the cash. If she is willing to pay $1,000 to be educated about homosexuality, then it might turn out to be a valuable lesson for her.

 

You are going to prove more to your mother by telling her to keep her money. You are gay and nothing is going to change that. Get her some PFLAG materials ASAP!

 

Well, the correct thing to do is to stand your point and not take the money.

HOWEVER. In my personal opinion, she said "date a girl", not "turn straight". Date a friend of yours and get the money. You would be doing what she asked you, to 'date a girl', not 'TURN STRAIGHT'. Just a random thought.

 

Trust me, I understand how much $1000 can help, but in the long run, it is only going to make matters worse. Where I'm from, if you are being paid to go on a date, kiss, etc. someone, you're a prostitute. Ha ha. Jk, but seriously, the dignity you will keep is worth millions more than the money you would get. It's going to prove your mom wrong, and hopefully help her get on track to acceptance. I agree with Becky. Give her PFLAG stuff now!

 

While I want to say take the money because I would be tempted, I have to say go with your dignity because eventually you are going to get tired of lying and then it's going to be worse. If you say no to the money then your mom will see that you are serious about being gay even though she will probably still think that you can change.

I would try to talk to her about the fact that you can't change being gay. You said your dad is ok with it, have you tried talking to him to see if he believes it's a choice? Maybe you can ask his advice on what you should say to her?

I think you would regret taking the money because it would just reinforce her thinking that it is a choice even if you are lying about it because in her mind she would just be thinking yes see it is a choice.

Sam

 

^She summed it up pretty well. $1000 might be tempting, especially to a person with money troubles, but your dignity is worth more. Asking for the money would only reinforce her belief that sexuality is changeable. By refusing the offer, you would indirectly tell her that it wouldn't make a difference and hopefully leaning her towards acceptance.

 

I can see both sides of the issue, but Lorenz seems to have found a way to make a compromise between the two. I kind of like that way. :icon_wink

 

Good luck. I agree with everyone above. Do not accept the money. Your dignity and your relationship with your mom is worth a lot more.

 

*cough*demand $2k*cough* Just kidding. Mostly.

Anyways good luck with that, after all it's a lesson she needs to learn as a human being to accept you (and others) regardless of any "status" a person has.

 

I would date a girl then take the money and date her brother just for the fun of it.... if i was out! of course I don't like my parents!
did she say she waould give u a 1000 dollars to turn straight or to go on a date?

 

$1000 ... and you say you have bad spending habits ... think about how fast you can spend money then measure that up with the time you have after the money is gone ... tell me how that works out?

this is just how I would think of it if my mom did this