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Should I tell him?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Andstillimhere7, Mar 6, 2014.

  1. Andstillimhere7

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    I love this guy and I had a crush on him for about a year, he makes so happy and he's so adorableXD. Anyways lately I been thinking if I should tell him I have a crush on him, but many suggest that that's a bad idea, but others say yes. Should I tell him?
     
  2. SemiCharmedLife

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    Is he straight? Does he know you're not?
     
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    Not much might really happen if you just hold it in. He might be too shy to say something, or maybe he doesn't think about you at all... either way, if you keep quiet, it'll either take longer for a date to happen, or it'll take longer to know that nothing is going to happen. (I'm sorry if I sound harsh o.o)

    Good Luck!!!!! Be brave!!!!
     
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    I really want to reiterate the very commonly overlooked fact that ultimately you are the one to make the decision.

    Nonetheless, my advice is to first test the waters. Don't rush in blinded into anything, unless you are very sure of the results. See how accepting he is of your sexuality and then consider your next course of action. Remember to think about the pros and cons before you act.

    Good luck!
     
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    Is he aware of your sexual orientation? If not then don't tell him right away that you're crushing on him. Tell him that your bisexual first. If he's good with that then proceed with caution on the crush thing :grin:
     
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    My personal opinion is thaf if he doesn't know you're not straight, go with that first. See how he takes that, then gradually let him know that you may also like him.