When did you know it was the right time to come out to family? How did you initiate the conversation after deciding the time was right?
I came out to my brother a few weeks ago. Nothing really changed. He heard people talking about me (being gay) in his highschool. (I go to the middle school of the same district.) So on a trip over February vacation I just told him. It's weird when people say it but "you just know." (even though I probably chose a bad time, he didn't care and it depends on your situation) It doesn't feel like I did anything though. I still feel trapped with all my other family members not knowing.
Well its usally when you have accepted yourself and agree that you are (a) LGBT. But its usally a time where its safe and the people you want to tell is there only. I came out to my mom in a car so nobody can hear us. It starts off "Can i tell you something" and so on. Hope this helps
At the time I thought I was bi. I was on a trip home from school and my parents and sister were all in the living room and I said, "Hey can we talk? I want to tell y'all something." Then once I got their attention I said something like, "So this is something I've known for a long time and I'm finally at a point where I'm comfortable enough to share it...I'm bisexual."
My parents are divorced, & I live with one brother and his wife and 2 roommates. I told my mother first, with her support I was encouraged. she knew I have been seeing a therapist for my depression. After I told her, I came out to my roommates, so I could be around the house freely as a woman, later I told my older brother... My father was the very last person I told, but I guess he kinda knew, he wasn't that shocked when I told him lol oh well =p small town word travels fast I guess
I never really got the chance to come out to my family. I never showed any attraction to men (I don't do that "lesbian that pretends to be straight to be accepted" bullshit), so they just knew. My mom, dad, and step-dad ALL asked if I was a lesbian before I got the chance to tell them. I DID come out to my god-mom, though. But it took me a long time because saying "I'm gay/lesbian" to someone makes me feel really, really, REALLY nervous and anxious. My god-cousin found out too on my 17th birthday, but I didn't have the nerve to tell him myself, so I made my god-mom 'out' me.
I just told my dad there was something I wanted to get off my chest, and then I just took a deep breath and told him. There was a lot of hugging involved.
For me personally I got to the stage where I was fed up of being in the closet but didn't have the courage to do it in person so wrote an email to them.
For me, it just got to the point where I didn't want to hide it any more. It started to take over my mind and I couldn't concentrate on anything other than my sexuality and how I would tell my parents. I couldn't face them, to tell them. So instead I drafted a letter up and left it for them one morning, before I went on holiday for a few days.