I've only just now come to accept the fact that I'm gay. I've struggled with it for years and tried to convince myself I was straight even though I knew the truth. The only thing that has stopped me from coming out is my family. I love them a lot and my siblings are for gay rights. My parents, however, are not for gay rights, especially my mom. I think my mom knows as she has given me warnings not to come out. I just laughed off those warnings as jokes and just told her I was straight. My plan is after I want to move to a gay friendly area after college and find a career. I plan on telling everyone except my dad and just telling my mother last over a Skype call or when she comes to visit. I'm happy know that I've internally accepted myself but it feels as if there are so many hardships to come. Is my plan stupid, should I just never tell my parents? Edit: I'm 22.
Your parents will find out eventually, better they hear it from you. Your plan sounds perfectly fine to me
Yeah doesn't sound stupid at all. The worst thing you said was that your mother pressured you to stay in the closet.
Might you not be better waiting until you graduate, if it is soon? Once you've got that first job, you'll have greater psychological space to come out to them without fear of difficulty. I think strategic timing is important. But you must do what feels right to you.
