okay so not that loong ago I told my a few of my frineds that im bi curious.. my guy friend whom I told was totaly cool with it he thought it was hot.. and totaly wanted to see me make out with a girl.. (thats a guy for ya..) My other friend (the girly i kinda have a crush on) was pretty cool about it and not freaked out at all.. but she just doesnt know I like her.. Now the other two friends I told.. are suuper religous.. and are totally against it. they say that they are cool about it. But I don't believe them.. they have been staying away from me and not talking to me much.. And i have no idea what to do about it... It hurts em that they now have a different opinoin about. and that they dont look at me the same... =/ so if anyone has addive on what to say to them... please help.. also I dont know if I should tell the girl i like that i do like her shes a really close friend... What do I do?:bang:
I wouldnt give up on your friends yet, they just need a little getting used to of it. If they are truly your friends, in time they wont care who your attracted to. As for the telling the close friend you like them, Im kinda the wrong person to ask about that lol If you do tell them, wait for the right time, and kinda find out how they might take it.
The best you can do is continue to make yourself "available" to your friends. If they're willing to reject your friendship because of your sexuality, then they aren't very good friends, are they? The fact of the matter is that as we go through life, our own beliefs and opinions are going to come into grave conflict with those of other people. Some of these people will be able to accept the difference and separate the friendship from the disagreement. Others will not. Be the bigger, better person. If they withdraw from you completely, then that's they're (unfortunate) decision. At least you can say you did everything you could to preserve the relationship. Congrats on being honest with your friends. That's a very brave thing to do.
Hi there! I wouldn't give up on the friendship just yet. It you want you could try talking to them and explain to them that you are still the same person and that nothing has changed. People have their own opinions and beliefs, but that should not matter when it comes to friendships. Try talking to them, if it doesn't change anything then you have to ask yourself if it is worth to hang on to their friendships. It is really their loss, not yours. If they can't accept you for who you are, there are others who will. s for the friend that you have a crush on, ask yourself whether there chance that something will develop between the two of you. If you feel or know that nothing might develop then it might be good if you try moving on as best as one can. Although it is hard, try to tell yourself that while nothing might develop romantically between the two of you, you still have a very close friend in her, someone who you can trust and confide in. Hope this helps!
I sure hope my firends will come around and noot mind the fact im bi. And I don't think my friend that It like wont be too freaked out.. Well i sure hope not. Well we do joke around thats shes my "lover" and stuff... So maybe she wont eb too creeped out.. dont you think? well anywasy thanks for teh advice =]
Thanks. well at least I will learn one thing from this, I will finally see who my true friends are and who are not. thanks for the advice =]
Honestly, I'd believe their words unless they give you a better reason not to. They say they're cool with it, so assume they are. As others suggested, it may take them to get used to it. If they've never known another gay/bi person, they may not know what to do, what to say, what not to say, how to react. Yeah, it's obvious to YOU, but it might not be to THEM. They may be minimizing contact simply because they don't know what to do with this informatino. Just keep being friendly, assume they ARE cool with it, and see what happens. Lex