Ok..I ordered this sex toy(a dildo ) from this website online and now they won't stop sending me catalogs through mail. I contacted them and told them that I do not want to receive any catalogs through mail like 2 months ago because I had a bad feeling about it. So I thought they are going to stop sending me catalogs. So like two days ago i came home from college and I checked through the pile of mail if I have received any mail. That day I also received a parcel and I see this opened envelop under the parcel. I thought my dad mistakenly opened my mail because we both have same last and first names. We open each others mail sometimes.So I checked what's inside and I saw this catalog with two guys f**king each other and I almost fainted. I'm pretty sure he saw that. To make it worse my sis and brother in law were also here that day! I think my sis and family kinds of suspect me for being gay but this is like f**king a guy in front of them.. now they might think I'm a sex freak or something and I order gay dvds through mail and I'm porn addicted. ( I didn't order gay videos.. just a dildo for my craving ass ). I thought about going away somewhere else that no one can find me! I'm not sure what to do. This was two days ago and I didn't see my dad because I leave early morning when he's sleeping and when I'm home he is gone to work. But he's at home on weekends and I'm pretty sure that we are going to have that embarrassing talk soon! what should I do? I think they knew that I'm gay but now I'm pretty sure they are 100% sure about it! What should I tell him if he asks me? I'm scared he's going to kick me out. I'm in a really bad financial situation and I don't won't him to do it! I'll be homeless or a prostitute. and now I hate dildos too ..my ass was craving for this freaking dildo and now I don't even want to see one! please tell me what should I do!
Dear Kenzo Wow slow down don't overreact. You should tell them that you made a mistake. You bought it and now you don't want it anymore. Seems pretty logical. Explain how they keep sending you stuff even though you called. Then say how sorry you were for embarrassing your siblings. So sorry for sounding like a grumpy parent. If you some more help don't feel afraid to ask Good luck -Dex
i completely agree with Dex but it really depends on if you want to come out. if yes then i'd say just do it, the longer you put it off the worse it could get but i don't know your family sooooo. if not, you could just say a friend of yours decided to pull that as a prank. best of luck!
In this kind of tangled webs lying only will make things go worse. So if he comes you with evidence just accept it... If your dad's mad and intended to kick you out he wouldn't probably wait for two days. So just be open with your dad. Just my two cents. In the end you know your family best. Good luck and hugs.
I agree with white knight. It completely sucks that the issue is being forced without your control over it, but at this point, authenticity is the only good solution. As difficult as it is, if you tell him the truth, even if the short-term response is anger (which would not be unexpected; remember the stages of loss (denial-anger-bargaining-grief-acceptance), the sooner you address it, the quicker it will heal. I also agree that if your dad wanted to make a big deal, you most likely would have already heard about it. On a secondary note: It is a very, very serious problem for a company marketing adult media products to send them to someone who has given notice they don't want them. There's jail time for the owners of the company for doing that. (It's an antiquated law about sending pornography through the mail, but it's still there and still enforced.) So I'd recommend finding the number for the corporate office (not the minimum wage call center staff, or even supervisor), call them, tell them you're 5 minutes away from filing a complaint with your postmaster for their company sending unwanted pornography to your address, that you know it's a felony criminal act, and ask to speak to someone in senior management. My guess is they'll fall all over themselves to ensure you never receive another catalog.
