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Coming out to my parents.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by TheFSM, Apr 4, 2014.

  1. TheFSM

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    Hi!
    So my parents are very open minded. The thing is I don't really feel like I have/want to come out. First I the whole coming out procces kind of wierd. i mean straight/cisgender people do not go to their parents and say "hey I am straight/cisgender".... And I think It would be knd of akward to talk to them about the way I feel about people (sexually and romantically). And I feel like it is unessecary, and that they do not really mind... I have thought about just presenting them my partner when I have one. But soemehow I feel if I just tell them when I do not have a male partner that they will think I wanted to hide my sexuality form them to this point. I feel like if I do not tell them in the near future that I am hiding it/ lying to them.

    What do you think I should do? :help:
     
  2. Hello =) Welcome to EC by the way.

    Honestly, this is how it should be. People shouldn't have to "come out" about their sexuality or gender identity, you are totally right. If you're parents aren't going to go into shock when you bring home a date, why bother going through the whole speech? If introducing them to your SO seems the best way to go when you are dating, just do it =)

    I wish more people's parents could be as accepting as yours!
     
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    Yeah, I think you are right :slight_smile: thanks
     
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    In a perfect world, there would be no "coming out." The reason it's often necessary is because people erroneously assume that everyone is straight/ cisgendered until proven otherwise. I'd tell them before you brought home a date.
     
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    If your parents are good, don't bother with the whole coming out thing, just introduce them to your date.
     
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    :slight_smile: thanks guys!