Alright guys. This might be long. I've got two things going on right now. So my mom flipped when she found out I was bi. And my brother knew that. Around april (the musical for our school actually) he started telling the rest of the cast that he was gay. I have never seen any part of him that would make me think he's gay. I mean...he drools over victoria secret commercials. I've never seen him ogle the guys on...Idk...hanes commercials. Two of the openly gay guys in the cast told me they thought he was lying about it. You see, my brother has never been popular. He's been picked on all through elementary and now junior high. He doesn't really have any friends. I'm wondering if maybe he saw how popular those two guys were and thought "hey...they are gay and everyone likes them. If I'm gay, maybe they'll like me." I don't understand him. I don't know if he's lying or not. He lies about everything else. Even when I sit him down and talk to him, I can't tell if he's lying. It would kill my mom if she found out about him. And it would hurt her even worse if he's lying. Any suggestions on how to get the truth out of him? Second topic, would be my youngest brother. He's 4. I think he might be gay. I know people say you can't really tell when your that young, but...its getting kind of obvious. He's already got really good fashion sense. (Ok...stereotype I know). he loves shoes. He always wants to go shoe shopping. And then he told me he doesn't like girls. But he's very comfortable hugging guys. If my boyfriend or any of my male friends come over, he shows off for them. It just really makes me wonder if being gay is genetic or more environmental. (My dad left about 2 years ago.) I don't know. Anyone have anything to say to this...please reply. I don't get my brothers.
I don't think your brother is gay. But then you never know. Talk to him about it. Obviously since you're out to him, you're not going to judge him for whatever he is, so he should feel comfortable talking to you about this. If he *is* lying, then you can explain what you said here. If he's telling the truth, you will be able to help him out further. How to go around with this? That's up to you. Just make sure that you talk to him at a time when he's in a good mood. Us brothers are tricky like that. Your youngest brother might turn out to be gay. Or he might just like the company of your guy friends (we all look up to our older sibling's friends) and be more fashion-minded. As for not liking girls at four years old, no kid will admit to that at the "cooties" age. If you need any more help, I'm around.
It sounds like the older brother might be "playing gay" for the attention. You might keep an eye on him for more "signs" before you confront him about it. Your little brother could or couldn't be gay, who knows. I've talked to other child care providers and teachers who highly suspected that kids were gay at a very young age. There is not really anything you can do about it just than make sure he knows he's loved just the way he is.
As far as the older brother, give it time. I really don't think he's gay, but I know from being in the closet you get really good at mirroring how the straight girls (guys) around you act and react to certain situations (victoria's secret comercials, etc.) As far as your younger brother, he might just be gay. My older cousin is gay. He is like 25 so I didn't know him that well as a child although we became really close in his later teens and twenties. My Mom and some of my other older cousins say that they always had a sense about him that he might be. Just let him grow up, it's a weird gaydar that young, but I do believe that you can have some idea.
I don't think your older brother would tell everyone if he was gay just for the hell of it. It would be a foolish and risky thing to do considering how society (well, some of it) views gays. As mentioned above, time will tell. As for your youngest brother: I'm not sure. Maybe it's some sort of phase? But if it isn't, I think he might grow up to be gay. Maybe you should talk to him? Good luck!
Your eldest brother may well be just faking as your suspicions dictate. But don't just assume that completely...talk to him or better yet...make him watch gay porn... haha As for your younger brother. My best friend has 2 brother exactly the same. Always craving attention from me and her boyfriend because they look upto us and (not trying to be big headed) want to be like us. Most boys do it About the shopping. He might just like it. No harm in that.
Your older brother, from the sound of it, is probably lonely and wants attention or friends. He may or may not be gay. He may drool over Victoria's Secret cause he's trying to make you think he's straight, when he really isn't. The real challenge here is trying to figure when he's lying and when he's telling the truth. You may not be able to tell any time soon, because if he lies a lot, he's probably pretty good at it, and you won't be able to get the truth from him. He's putting on a mask to make himself appear more desirable by whoever he wants acceptance from at that given time. You may never see him without a mask. As for your younger brother, he's too young to be PRETENDING anything. You're seeing how he really feels. He may actually be straight and just like some things which are associated with gay stereotypes, or he may wind up being gay. The thing with someone that young is that their sexuality hasn't developed yet, so it could go either way. You'll have to see when he's older.
With your younger brother, i could just be idolisation. Would you consider yourself even a bit sterotypical for a bi/gay guy. With the older brother, it's not rare at all. It happens quite often at my school. I'm not trying to gloat (OKAY MAYBE I AM ) But people always see me as the popular gay guy. I find it really sad when guys do this because little do they know that just because you're close friends with every girl at the school, all the other guys normally HATE you behind your back. LoL and ironically, the last time this happened at my school it was during the school musical aswel None of us can say if he is or isn't, there are so so many gay guy's out there that no one will ever suspect; i just hope he pulls out soon because that kind of attention isn't as good as it may seem
I think your little brother is gay. I'm a firm believer that it's genetic. FIRM. my parent have a home video of me when I was little, I was hiding under a blanket and my dad lifted up the blanket and said "Well who are you!?" And little me goes, "I'm a girl!". Hahaha. Now, I'm not transexual, but I think it was a good giveaway that I wasn't like the other boys. So I think you CAN tell that young. ;x
