I've recently written a letter that I intend to give to my parents at some stage when I sum up the courage. I really need some advice (especially from other LGBT people since I don't have many LGBT friends) whether this letter is a good way of breaking it out to my parents? Thank you!! :icon_bigg 'To Mum and Dad, I know you’ll be wondering why I am writing you this letter, and I just want you to know that everything is okay, nothing is bad, it’s just an issue that I have decided to tell you about through this very important letter. I know I’ve had a lot of ‘issues’ and I know I haven’t been dealing with them in the best way either, I’m sorry about that. But this is something that I think I need to tell you because it’s a pressing issue that I think about more and more every day and I can’t keep it away from you any longer. I just want you to know that this doesn’t change me, I am still me. And you are still you. I’m gay and agender. I don’t know how you feel about this right now, whether you are shocked, angry, sad, happy, confused… I don’t know. But I want you to know that, as I write this in my rare free time at school, my hands are trembling from the fear of writing this. I also want you to know that this isn’t a phase or something I have chosen to be, in fact, if I could chose it, I’m pretty sure I would have chosen to be straight and fitting to my own sex so that I wouldn’t be judged or be considered ‘inhuman’ in some of the countries who look down at same sex couples. Of course you know what gay means. I like the same-sex. But what about agender? I’m going to put being agender in my own words, giving my own definitions. Agender (or androgyne) is when a person does not feel like they are the any gender at all, although they may show equal or more traits of a specific sex. There are lots of terms and explanations of it but I simply do not feel like I am any gender. Simply put, I am a female-bodied person. I am female because of my biological sex, but I am not a girl, nor a boy. Being genderless, I do feel quite wrong sometimes, that I am not who I should be and sometimes I feel wrong in my skin, it depends. I know I do have more male traits, so I act more male and think more like a male but I am not a boy nor am I male. I am quite fluid with pronouns and I will allow any pronoun like ‘she, her’ or ‘he, him’ or even neutral terms such as ‘they, them’. I don’t think I can ever be changed, I don’t think this will change but if it does, and I discover more about myself and if I turn out to actually be a girl or I realize that I am a boy and trans, then who cares right? This doesn’t affect anyone but me. I am not saying this to upset you in anyway. I am not making this up or whatever, this is genuinely how I feel inside and I can’t keep it away from you anymore. Just keep in mind that I love you both, no matter what.'
HMO3 - they have mentioned that they wouldn't care if me or my siblings were gay but I know for a fact that they will not understand the agender part and I don't think they will react too well with that. They won't do anything too serious though, like kick me out or anything, they just won't appreciate it or something.
