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Friend asked if I was gay...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by gaynerd64, Apr 8, 2014.

  1. gaynerd64

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    And of course I said no. Damn it, I was too scared to come out. She suspects of course...
     
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    Come out when and only when you feel comfortable with it, I denied being Gay to a bunch of my friends, for a while, and only recently came out. You have time, don't rush it, if you feel you want to come out to her, then do so.

    Good luck(*hug*)
     
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    That's okay,

    If you're not ready to come out yet, then you're not ready. Do this on your timeline and no one else's. Best of luck :slight_smile:
     
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    You don't have to come out yet if you don't want to. :slight_smile:
     
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    Exactly this. You first have to fully come out to yourself. You'll feel when you're ready to come out to others. It is also understandable if you feel cornered and stressed in such situations - I did.
     
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    Hi! :slight_smile:
    My friend asked me the same question a few weeks ago, and I regretted not telling her. (She herself is bi, so she was hardly going to reject me!) I finally plucked up the courage to tell her last night, and she was super nice, and said she didn't even suspect!
    But don't tell her just because she asked, wait until you are ready, don't rush it. :slight_smile:
     
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    Q. Are you gay?
    Your reply: Are you asking because you want to be my advisor on sexual issues?

    Their answer: No
    Your reply: Then it really isn't something I should discuss with you.

    Their answer: Yes
    Your reply: Good; then, if I want your fucking advice, I'll ask for it. :eusa_naug
     
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    I feel you there!

    Even one of my teachers asked me in high school, on top of several friends. You have no obligation to tell them, and even if they are simply curious, its a very intimate and personal question. If/when you say anything is entirely up to you!
     
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    Like all the others have said before me, come out when you're ready. It should be on your time, not theres.