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Stuck in one awkward place

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by striker, Apr 13, 2014.

  1. striker

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    Location:
    New Zealand
    Gender:
    Male
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I'm currently dating my bestfriend and I don't know how to tell her that I'm gay.
    I realised that I've been going from one heterosexual relationship to another because I was afraid of coming to terms with it. My girlfriend knows everything about me and my past yet I've been keeping this from her and I feel horrible.
    I'm really stuck with what to do now, my girlfriend is also my flatmate and I know she will be crushed if I tell her and make living circumstances really awkward.
    To make things worst we live together with 3 other best friends and we do the same degree.
    Any advise is good advise! I feel so alone
     
  2. blakphlamz

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    First things first:
    You came to the right place if you feel alone. People will ALWAYS help you out here.

    I think that you should start by gauging her attitude towards homosexuality.(Starting out with the obvious advice). I would then move on to your other faltmates, if you plan to tell them. If they/she are okay with it, I would just be honest with her. Tell her how you feel and that for a long time you were trying to come to terms with who you are. I would also apologize for lying to her all this time, just in case she might be fumed. (Not saying that has a huge chance, but it could happen).

    ---------- Post added 14th Apr 2014 at 01:44 AM ----------

    Sorry, sent it before I could say this:

    Just remember: you are who you are, and exceptiing that is the majority of the battle: The finish is in sight.)

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