I'm 18 and pretty sure I'm a lesbian, and have since i was about 10 years old. About 16 I accepted that yes, I like girls, and I can't make this go away or force myself to like guys as much as I wished I could. I have been noticing the attractions to my girl friends more, but have only had one girlfriend (4 months long distance) and it was difficult. I cared a lot for her and felt more comfortable and relaxed talking to her about stuff, more cared for and caring. So as I said I have accepted myself, but still don't know how to go about telling my family. I am leaving to university in 4 months and am not sure whether I want to come out now to my parents/friends (Christian school) and see how it goes or wait until I am on my own. I had always thought since it's only a year, 8 months. 5 months, etc. that It would be easier to come out when I live on my own. However it's killing me to live in the closet as much as I am (deep) and it's almost all my mnd things about. I have a councilor and I still haven't even brought it up to her yet just because I'm nervous . I really don't want it to be attributed to a physically/sexually abusive relationship I was in 3 years ago, I don't want people to say "well you were just hurt" and such... that's part of why I'm nervous. I really just want advice whether you'd just wait 4 months and push through, or come out and deal with whatever consequences??
So if you want to tell them now do it before college. But basically there's not time limit in telling them. It's you who decides! It can be before but also after leaving. Whatever you feel comfortable with!
