How do you start getting comfortable about just telling people I'm bi/gay/lesbian?

Re: How do you start getting comfortable about just telling people I'm bi/gay/lesbian

It comes with time. As you come out to more people, it becomes less of an event and more of a formality. Once you are truly at peace with the fact that you are gay/bi, that's when you have the most confidence.

 

Re: How do you start getting comfortable about just telling people I'm bi/gay/lesbian

You start with the people you're most comfortable with. Think of other things you might be reluctant to tell people - like you doing REALLY bad on a test, or getting into a fight with somebody, or whatever. If you just HAD to talk to somebody about it, who would it be? Your best friend? Your sister? Your mom? Whoever it is might be the ideal person to start with.

The first person you tell tends to be somewhat of a big deal. It's usually an "I gotta talk to you" sort of moment, it's often uncomfortable, and tripping over words is almost inevitable. But that's why you start with your best friend. They're on your side - they'll stick with you as you fumble for what to say. After the first one, it gets easier.

Lex

 

Re: How do you start getting comfortable about just telling people I'm bi/gay/lesbian

I totally agree with Lexington! Starting with your best friend is good, since they are already on your side. I think too, in my own experience, the less of a deal you make it (granted you will be nervous, but if you can think of it more in terms of "hey guess what?" instead of "we've got to talk", that seems to have worked for me), the less of a deal the person you are talking to will make it. In my experience too, if I know the person well enough I'm mostly able to judge what they will say when I tell them, and mostly then you will be able to say which persons you want to tell first, namely the ones that will be most accepting of you!